✨ If you’ve ever doubted if it’s really abuse – this one’s for you.

For years, I believed every one of these myths.

I justified, explained away, and sugar-coated behaviours that were slowly destroying my self-worth – all because I thought that’s what love looked like.

It’s time to call bullshit on the lies that keep so many women stuck in painful, confusing, toxic relationships.

Let’s bust a few myths, shall we? 👇

❤️ MYTH #1: “It’s not abuse if they don’t hit you.”

🚫 FALSE.

Abuse isn’t always physical.

Emotional, psychological, and financial abuse count.

Control doesn’t always leave bruises – sometimes it leaves anxiety, exhaustion, and a shell of your former self. 🐚 

If you’re constantly walking on eggshells, apologising to keep the peace, or feeling small in your own home… that’s not love. 

That’s control.

 

💔 MYTH #2: “They only get angry because they care.”

🚫 FALSE.

That’s not passion – that’s manipulation. Coercive control.

Real love feels calm, safe, and secure, not like a ticking time bomb you’re tiptoeing around.

Anger that comes with threats, silent treatments, or punishment isn’t love.

You don’t have to accept volatility to feel valued.

 

😶 MYTH #3: “If I just love them harder, they’ll change.”

🚫 FALSE.

You can’t heal someone who refuses to face their own demons.

Love can inspire change – but it can’t create it.

You can throw all your energy, time, money, and heart into trying to fix them, and it still won’t work unless they actually want to change.

And guess what? It’s not your job to save them.

 

💸 MYTH #4: “It’s my fault — I trigger them.”

🚫 FALSE.

Their reactions are their responsibility.

You’re not responsible for fixing, calming, or managing someone else’s emotions.

That’s not love… that’s self-abandonment. 🤷🏼‍♀️ 

When you start contorting yourself to avoid their moods, you lose yourself in the process. Trust me, I’ve been there (many times).

 

🥴 MYTH #5: “All couples fight like this.”

🚫 FALSE.

Healthy couples communicate. Toxic couples compete for control.

Conflict isn’t the problem; disrespect is.

Yes, every relationship has disagreements. 

But if your fights leave you feeling drained, afraid, or worthless… that’s not normal.

 

💭 MYTH #6: “If I leave, I’ll never find love again.”

🚫 FALSE.

That’s fear talking.

When you heal your self-worth, you attract love that doesn’t hurt (and stop attracting fuckwits into your life!)

The version of you who walks away – the one who finally says “not this, not anymore” – becomes the version who attracts peace, safety, and real love.

You deserve a love that feels like peace, not punishment.

A love that uplifts you, not one that destroys you from the inside out.

Something’s coming to help you rebuild that peace from the inside out.

✨ Project Self Worth – stay tuned.

These are the lies that keep women stuck in cycles of toxicity.

I’ve believed every single one of them – until I didn’t.

 

It’s time to stop normalising pain and start demanding peace.

💪 Something big is coming for those ready to rise.

 

If you’re sick of the baggage that’s keeping you stuck, drop me a message and let’s chat about how coaching and/or energy work can help.

Catcha on the flip side,

 

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