How often do you make decisions based on what other people might think? 🤔 Have you ever… 👍🏼 Said “yes” when you wanted to say “no” or “fck off”? 🤐 Stayed quiet to keep the peace? 🧐 Changed your opinion because someone disagreed with you? Put everyone else’s needs before your own? If so, you might be abandoning your authentic self because you’re seeking external validation and approval. For most people, this starts in childhood. 👧 If…
In around 2016, I attended a volunteering day at the RUAH homeless centre in Northbridge, where I gave Reiki treatments to the centre’s patrons, alongside a few other volunteers. I used to work at RUAH Mental Health for a few years and they’re an amazing organisation. It was really good to give back to clients in a volunteering capacity using energy work. 🙌🏻 During one of the breaks I sat on the sofa next to a guy who I discovered…
If you’ve left an unhealthy/toxic/abusive relationship and you’re wondering why you still feel so shit, your nervous system is likely still fried. 🍳 Survival mode doesn’t just switch off the moment you end the relationship – and the longer you’ve been with your nervous system in overdrive, the more time you’ll need to heal it. The frazzled-ness lingers in your thoughts, your habits, your reactions… until you finally teach your body and mind that you’re safe now.…
There came a moment in my past abusive relationships where something inside me said “not this, not anymore“. Initially, it was a whisper, and the whisper got louder until I just couldn’t ignore it. If this is happening to you right now too, it may still be a whisper that you don’t fully trust yet – and that’s totally ok. But you are feeling it. Thinking it. Knowing it, deep in your bones somewhere. That nagging feeling that…
It rarely starts with a big moment. 🤷🏼♀️ No dramatic fight. No obvious dealbreaker. No clear reason you can point to and say, “This is wrong.” 🤔 As a relationship coach and trauma-informed practitioner who has spent over 20 years working with women in unhealthy dynamics and perpetrators of family violence as a Parole Officer (and having lived it myself in many past relationships) I see this quiet questioning stage all the time. This means awareness is starting to…
As I write this, I’m mid-air flying to London for an emergency trip back to the UK. ✈️ Cam was there with me when I got some concerning news and he was so amazing, nothing but supportive. 🥰 It wasn’t even a thought that I had to ask for “permission” to book a flight home even though it means all our Christmas plans go out the window. I had a moment where I thought what this would have been…