Last week I received a message from a friend after I posted my blog “5 signs you’re dating a toxic person.”My friend said this blog came at the perfect time as she was getting ready to leave her toxic partner.Toxic people show traits of narcissism and borderline personality disorder among other things; they have attachment issues from childhood which tends to create a toxic playground and codependency in their adult relationships.We’ve kept in touch the last few days while she…
I’ve been listening to a bit of Tara Brach lately and she has a great video about how to stop the war against ourselves. She speaks about how when we’re suffering, it’s because we’re holding on too tight and need to let go. If you let go a little you’ll find a little peace. If you let go a lot, you’ll find a lot of peace. If you let go completely, you’ll be able to live your life fully. This…
I was listening to an interview the other day with Lisa Nichols about how she rescued herself from a life of poverty to become the successful person she is today. This is a must watch/listen as there were SO many gold nuggets I couldn’t keep up! Listen or watch here. One of the things that stood out was her quote “your conviction and convenience don’t live on the same block.” What she’s referring to is that most people want the…
I was chatting to a friend the other day about a guy she’s been seeing for a few months. She was really upset about the way she’s being treated and she’s well aware that she’s allowing it to happen due to her own limiting beliefs and self-worth issues. Not everyone is as aware as my friend about how much she is feeding into the situation. A lot of us in relationships can get stuck into blame and victim mode when things aren’t going…
We’ve all got people in our lives who suck the life out of us. Those kind of push/pull relationships where they’ll push you away, call you a crappy friend/partner, act like you don’t even exist or talk smack about you to others. Then they pull you back in with some drama or another, making you feel needed in some way. Exhausting, isn’t it? True energy vampires. Ask yourself what it is you’d need to do to change the situation. Do…
I shared a pic this week on FB that said “I’ve found the key to happiness; stay away from assholes.” A friend then posted this comment: “Carly you have an inner light and power to transform people! Humans are all at different levels of development. There are stages of consciousness. And within the stages there are lines of development – moral, emotional, intellectual etc. A doctor may drive a car like a selfish fool. A loving nurse may ignore her…