Sometimes I feel an almost overwhelming sadness about how much time I’ve wasted in relationships with men who didn’t deserve my love and time. And then I reflect on all the lessons I’ve learned and realise they all got me to where I am today. As I fast approach 40, I’m in an amazing place in my life where for maybe the first time ever there is a sense of balance and happiness in every single area of…
I saw the above title in a quote this week, and it really triggered a big reflection for me. A reflection on how many times in the past I’ve done exactly that – let the unacceptable become the acceptable. How in the past I’ve allowed myself to be treated with disrespect due to my own shitty boundaries. How I’ve allowed others to emotionally abuse me – some for years. How I gave my energy and power away on the…
Last week I received a message from a friend after I posted my blog “5 signs you’re dating a toxic person.”My friend said this blog came at the perfect time as she was getting ready to leave her toxic partner.Toxic people show traits of narcissism and borderline personality disorder among other things; they have attachment issues from childhood which tends to create a toxic playground and codependency in their adult relationships.We’ve kept in touch the last few days while she…
I’ve been listening to a bit of Tara Brach lately and she has a great video about how to stop the war against ourselves. She speaks about how when we’re suffering, it’s because we’re holding on too tight and need to let go. If you let go a little you’ll find a little peace. If you let go a lot, you’ll find a lot of peace. If you let go completely, you’ll be able to live your life fully. This…
I was listening to an interview the other day with Lisa Nichols about how she rescued herself from a life of poverty to become the successful person she is today. This is a must watch/listen as there were SO many gold nuggets I couldn’t keep up! Listen or watch here. One of the things that stood out was her quote “your conviction and convenience don’t live on the same block.” What she’s referring to is that most people want the…
I was chatting to a friend the other day about a guy she’s been seeing for a few months. She was really upset about the way she’s being treated and she’s well aware that she’s allowing it to happen due to her own limiting beliefs and self-worth issues. Not everyone is as aware as my friend about how much she is feeding into the situation. A lot of us in relationships can get stuck into blame and victim mode when things aren’t going…