I saw the above title in a quote this week, and it really triggered a big reflection for me. A reflection on how many times in the past I’ve done exactly that – let the unacceptable become the acceptable. How in the past I’ve allowed myself to be treated with disrespect due to my own shitty boundaries. How I’ve allowed others to emotionally abuse me – some for years. How I gave my energy and power away on the…
“Sit with the pain until it passes, and you will be calmer for the next one” ~ Naval RavikantThe world is full of very wounded people.Some wounded people choose to work on their pain to heal it, but many more people choose not to.When you have a low tolerance for distress, it makes it harder to sit with emotional pain, which needs to be done to be able to heal it.Instead, many choose a path of avoiding emotional pain through…
I saw a very thought provoking quote by Russell Brand (love him) the other day that is so true. “Cannabis isn’t a gateway drug. Alcohol isn’t a gateway drug. Nicotine isn’t a gateway drug. Caffeine isn’t a gateway drug. Trauma is the gateway. Childhood abuse is the gateway. Molestation is the gateway. Neglect is the gateway. Drug abuse, violent behaviour, hyper sexuality and self-harm are often the symptoms (not the cause) of much bigger issues. And it…
We all have emotional baggage from our past that holds us back from achieving our goals and being our best self. One of my favourite things to do is to help others uncover what’s holding them back so they can become the best version of themselves. Out of the hundreds of tools I’ve learned along the way, forgiveness work is my number one go-to if I’m stuck. The first forgiveness technique I learned was taught to me by my best…
If you’re struggling through something difficult, like a sand bog or a marsh, going back takes as much effort as is does to push through to the other side. The painful slog through needs to be gone through to get to the end. What I see in a lot of people going through tough times is that they want to bury their head in the sand and avoid the issue altogether (which never resolves anything), or they avoid their painful…