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Pain

You drown not by falling in the river, but by staying submerged in it

  Life is full of ups and downs, where it can feel like the shit hitting the fan will never end. This is a guaranteed part of life. But like old mate Tony Robbins says, pain is part of life; suffering is optional. Granted, when life gives you lemons, you can feel very triggered, angry, hurt, upset, resentful, bitter… and if this goes on for long enough you risk burnout, anxiety and depression. We can be our own worst enemy…

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Stop feeding the monsters in your head – water the seeds instead

  We all have days where the Negative Nancy/Ned in our head spirals out of control. Where lack of sleep, pain or illness, our environment or whatever it might be, gets the better of us. But our mindset is key here to how far we allow ourselves to spiral down the rabbit hole of shitty thoughts. We all have good and bad days – that’s part of life. Have you ever noticed how people who constantly complain have more bad…

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Never let the unacceptable become the acceptable

  I saw the above title in a quote this week, and it really triggered a big reflection for me. A reflection on how many times in the past I’ve done exactly that – let the unacceptable become the acceptable. How in the past I’ve allowed myself to be treated with disrespect due to my own shitty boundaries. How I’ve allowed others to emotionally abuse me – some for years. How I gave my energy and power away on the…

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We are so much better at causing pain, than feeling pain

“Sit with the pain until it passes, and you will be calmer for the next one” ~ Naval RavikantThe world is full of very wounded people.Some wounded people choose to work on their pain to heal it, but many more people choose not to.When you have a low tolerance for distress, it makes it harder to sit with emotional pain, which needs to be done to be able to heal it.Instead, many choose a path of avoiding emotional pain through…

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Trauma is the gateway

I saw a very thought provoking quote by Russell Brand (love him) the other day that is so true.   “Cannabis isn’t a gateway drug. Alcohol isn’t a gateway drug. Nicotine isn’t a gateway drug. Caffeine isn’t a gateway drug.   Trauma is the gateway. Childhood abuse is the gateway. Molestation is the gateway. Neglect is the gateway.   Drug abuse, violent behaviour, hyper sexuality and self-harm are often the symptoms (not the cause) of much bigger issues. And it…

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Try this to release past hurts

We all have emotional baggage from our past that holds us back from achieving our goals and being our best self. One of my favourite things to do is to help others uncover what’s holding them back so they can become the best version of themselves. Out of the hundreds of tools I’ve learned along the way, forgiveness work is my number one go-to if I’m stuck. The first forgiveness technique I learned was taught to me by my best…

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