I was watching an awesome interview with Ed Mylett, Peak Performance expert this week (check out the video here: https://youtu.be/na7RfQ5NBC8) called what everyone struggling needs to know.
Ed said his favourite quote was by Malcolm X, “that which you do not hate you will eventually tolerate.”
This identifies most people’s lives.
Average becomes a sort of slow asphyxiation where over time we become stuck in our comfort zone and immune to the person we’re becoming.
We minimise where we’re at and say things like “I’m a little pudgy” instead of admitting “actually I’m fat.”
We convince ourselves we’re happy because on the face of it we have everything, instead of admitting how unhappy we are.
You’ll get out of your life what you’ll accept.
What you’ll tolerate is absolutely what you’ll bring in to your life and what that part of your life will look like.
Let yourself feel the pain of where you’re ACTUALLY at. Stop BS-ing yourself.
It’s only from this place of pain and honesty that we can have the desire and motivation to change.
We have two motivators – the gaining of pleasure and the avoidance of pain.
We need to leverage both of these to get ourselves to take action.
Where in your life are you tolerating the pain?
You may have done such a great job of convincing yourself that you’re happy that you may not even see it at first.
Try the wheel of life exercise – draw a circle and then separate it into 8 pizza slices, labelled with each of the areas of your life that are important to you.
Then rate each area 0-10, with 10 being the best it could be.
What would be going on in your life for you to score that area 10/10?
How would you be showing up differently?
By completing your wheel of life every 6-12 months, you’ll see where you have a wonky wheel and the areas you need to work on become obvious.
This is a great starting place to set your goals and action steps.
Try this out over the next couple of days.
I’d love you to send me a picture of your completed wheel of life too – this holds you accountable to making changes.
Step into your power and use the affirmation “I’m no longer willing to accept average. I’m willing to do whatever it takes to be my best self.”
Let me know where you’re willing to make changes in your life – you’ve got this and I’m willing to cheer you on!
If you’re willing to do a prior deep dive into this with me as your Coach, drop me a PM or email and let’s chat 😊
Cacha on the flip side,