Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes toxic for us. I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 😶🌫️ Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person. Toxic people show traits of narcissism and borderline personality disorder among other things; they have attachment issues from childhood which…
I spent a good chunk of my life between my mid twenties to my late thirties in unhealthy codependent relationships. A codependent relationship is a love addiction where we seek to prove our worth by helping people with broken wings💔 We’re drawn to addicts and under-functioners who’ll depend on us emotionally, financially or in some other way. We also have a tendency to attract very narcissistic and abusive people who have a lot of shit…
Back in early 2011, I found myself back in depression soon after thinking I’d recovered from it. 2010 was a pretty terrible year for me in many ways. I slipped a disc in my back, was signed off work for 4 months, left a toxic relationship, ended up in depression and ultimately moved to Australia to fulfil a lifelong dream. I think a lot of us who move to another country end up with the blues at some…
How would your life be if you truly loved, honoured and respected yourself? If you honoured your needs each day? If you lived in integrity with your values in each moment? I find this is a really useful – and often – confronting question to ask my clients, one they get pretty immediate answers to. I work with a lot of very natural “helper” types – I’m one of those too. There can…
As we grow as individuals and get to know ourselves more, we become more aware of our values and what’s important to us in life.That includes how we want to be treated.But what does this really mean?It mostly comes down to our personal boundaries, which stem from our sense of self-worth. Someone with a low self-worth doesn’t love themselves enough, or think they’re worthy enough, to stand up to those who are treating them badly. Someone with a healthy level of self-worth and self-love will have strong…
Is your life exactly as you want it to be? The world is full of people complaining about their job/relationship/money troubles, take your pick. But the truth is that our external world is really only a mirror for our inner world and how we’re treating ourselves. Here’s a few examples: Clutter in your external environment = clutter in your brain space Feeling unloved = not loving yourself enough Feeling disrespected/used/taken for granted = not setting good personal boundaries = lack…