I’ve had a lot of new people follow my content lately so I thought it was time to re-introduce myself! 👋🏼 The woman I am today has run a business as a coach and energy practitioner/Reiki teacher for 21 years. Alongside that, I spent 18 years as a parole officer across London, Sydney and Perth, specialising in serious family violence. I’m in an incredible, loving and supportive relationship with the best human I’ve ever met. 🥰 And most days I’m…
Over the last couple of years, the content I’ve been putting out has focused much more on educating people about unhealthy, toxic and abusive relationships (whatever label you decide to put on it). With that has come an abundance of trolls – plenty of fake accounts leaving shite comments on my posts. GOOD. 😂 My coaches have always taught me to celebrate the haters, because it means I’m getting somewhere. There’s a growing army of people out there (men…
One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
Back when I started my healing/personal development journey I was in my early twenties, so I’ve been on that journey for 20+ years now. Myself, my bro and my sis have amazing role models for parents; their relationship has always been on a pedestal for me in terms of their deep love for each other, the way they co-parent us kids, the way they handle any issues, the way they created a business empire from literally nothing except sheer…
If you’ve left an unhealthy/toxic/abusive relationship and you’re wondering why you still feel so shit, your nervous system is likely still fried. 🍳 Survival mode doesn’t just switch off the moment you end the relationship – and the longer you’ve been with your nervous system in overdrive, the more time you’ll need to heal it. The frazzled-ness lingers in your thoughts, your habits, your reactions… until you finally teach your body and mind that you’re safe now.…
If, in your relationship, you feel like you have to monitor your words, your tone, your behaviour, your mood and basically your entire existence to keep your partner happy, this is a mahoosive red flag – it’s not love. 🚩 You stay because you crave connection with them and your nervous system has become used to being happy enough with the bare minimum breadcrumbs they give you. Because you’ve normalised it so much, it feels familiar and…