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How to calm the nervous system after a break up

  As part of my Project Self Worth program I run weekly live group coaching calls with my members and they’re able to ask questions for us to go through on the call. Recently, one of my members asked: “I have a question after leaving the relationship. I know I’m doing well but I’m pretty sure my nervous system is really struggling and I’m emotionally burnt out. I’ve got nothing in the tank and am really struggling with the energy…

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Relationship papercuts

(The real reason why you’re falling out of love) We don’t talk nearly enough about the papercuts that we get in our relationship. Not the big, dramatic blow ups that make you pack a bag and storm out like you’re in some trashy MAFS scene. 😤 No, I’m talking about the little moments. The raised voice. The “you’re being too sensitive.” 🥺 The important thing you had on today that they couldn’t be arsed to ask about. The “not now”…

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Another MAFS brain dump #sorrynotsorry

Ok, so thank fuck MAFS is almost over!  Yes I know, it’s massively edited but there are some real lessons we can still learn here about relationships. ❤️‍🩹  I got up to speed with the episodes this week and the relationship I want to focus on is Paul and Carina. Carina – what a stunningly beautiful person inside and out. 😍 She comes across as extremely family oriented with strong values relating to loyalty, trust and having her partner’s back.…

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Is someone you love in a toxic relationship?

  Recently I had the mother of a woman experiencing family violence join my Project Self Worth program, where I educate women about healthy vs unhealthy relationships and show them my step-by-step guide on how to heal from abuse and find healthy love. ❤️  All the other women on my program are in/healing from abusive relationships, but this member isn’t – her daughter is. I’m loving the messages I’m receiving from her with her many light bulb moments, recognising how…

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Coercive Control – The frog that slowly boils to death

  It was November 2018.    I woke up on the floor after sleeping in a room in my house that I used as my office, instead of sleeping in my bedroom, where he was sleeping.   I felt scared, afraid to leave the room and confront the situation ahead of me, treading on eggshells as always and feeling like a shell of my former self. 🐚   It wasn’t unusual to be met with passive aggressiveness, being completely ignored…

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Are you ignoring the small changes that could hurt you?

  Often I work with my coaching clients around situations that don’t serve them, and are making them completely miserable. 😞  They’ve usually been in the situation they’re in for a long period of time.  The situation they’re in never starts how it ends. Take the example of an abusive relationship. If an abusive relationship began how it ends up, you’d never find yourself in that relationship. It starts with subtle things at first – put downs, comments about what…

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