When I hit 38 after the end of another abusive relationship, I had completely lost trust in my own judgement. I’d discovered my core wound of abandonment and rejection and… fuck me, did it hurt. 😞 Even after having done a shitload of healing, coaching and other personal development tools since my early twenties, this wound knocked the wind out of me. 💨 I needed time and space to heal. A lot of space. Space to reflect on what…
Over the last couple of years, the content I’ve been putting out has focused much more on educating people about unhealthy, toxic and abusive relationships (whatever label you decide to put on it). With that has come an abundance of trolls – plenty of fake accounts leaving shite comments on my posts. GOOD. 😂 My coaches have always taught me to celebrate the haters, because it means I’m getting somewhere. There’s a growing army of people out there (men…
If you’ve left an unhealthy/toxic/abusive relationship and you’re wondering why you still feel so shit, your nervous system is likely still fried. 🍳 Survival mode doesn’t just switch off the moment you end the relationship – and the longer you’ve been with your nervous system in overdrive, the more time you’ll need to heal it. The frazzled-ness lingers in your thoughts, your habits, your reactions… until you finally teach your body and mind that you’re safe now.…
Last week inside Project Self Worth, we talked about masculinity; healthy vs toxic self-proclaimed “alphas”. 🙄 The difference between the chest-beating, podcast-y, “submit to me, woman” fuckwits and the men that feel safe, grounded, solid. 👌🏻 The kind that doesn’t need to dominate to feel like a man. After watching the circus on Louis Theroux’s recent doco The Manosphere, it would be very easy to believe those toxic voices represent men as a whole. They don’t; they’re just louder.…
Last week we kicked off our very first of 12 live group coaching calls for my Project Self Worth members. These calls are always so special for me, and I come away feeling like I’ve had a giant group hug – I honestly feel like I get a big dump of oxytocin and dopamine (feel good hormones) after running these calls. 🥰 The biggest reason for this is the sense of community and connection these calls provide. Each of…
As I write this, I’m mid-air flying to London for an emergency trip back to the UK. ✈️ Cam was there with me when I got some concerning news and he was so amazing, nothing but supportive. 🥰 It wasn’t even a thought that I had to ask for “permission” to book a flight home even though it means all our Christmas plans go out the window. I had a moment where I thought what this would have been…