One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
If you’ve left an unhealthy/toxic/abusive relationship and you’re wondering why you still feel so shit, your nervous system is likely still fried. 🍳 Survival mode doesn’t just switch off the moment you end the relationship – and the longer you’ve been with your nervous system in overdrive, the more time you’ll need to heal it. The frazzled-ness lingers in your thoughts, your habits, your reactions… until you finally teach your body and mind that you’re safe now.…
If, in your relationship, you feel like you have to monitor your words, your tone, your behaviour, your mood and basically your entire existence to keep your partner happy, this is a mahoosive red flag – it’s not love. 🚩 You stay because you crave connection with them and your nervous system has become used to being happy enough with the bare minimum breadcrumbs they give you. Because you’ve normalised it so much, it feels familiar and…
“You become like the five people you spend the most time with” is one of my fave quotes. 🫶🏻 If you keep surrounding yourself with negative, lazy, toxic, dramatic people who love a good whinge, it’s going to rub off on you too and your life will start to look like theirs. Energy rubs off. Mindsets rub off. Standards rub off; do you really want to lower your standards or raise them? 🤔 So if you spend most…
I’ve been blamed by more than one person for being the cause for their relationship ending. And I’m totally fine with it. Because it has nothing to do with cheating – it’s because I’ve been their partners’ coach and/or energy worker/Reiki teacher. My absolute passion in life is helping my clients to fulfil their potential; to become the best version of themselves, clearing whatever is holding them back, healing their past trauma, and figuring out whatever their version of…
Years ago, I wrote a blog called Happiness Is A Fairy Cake, which was all about how it’s the simple things in life that make me happy. 🧁 That blog was a deep story about a relationship I’d been in at the time that was really unhealthy for me, how I’d gone to the other end of London for a healing and seen this big yellow fairy cake that I bought before the healing with the intention of sharing…