Over the last couple of years, the content I’ve been putting out has focused much more on educating people about unhealthy, toxic and abusive relationships (whatever label you decide to put on it). With that has come an abundance of trolls – plenty of fake accounts leaving shite comments on my posts. GOOD. 😂 My coaches have always taught me to celebrate the haters, because it means I’m getting somewhere. There’s a growing army of people out there (men…
So many women spend their lives chasing after love, approval, validation and success, believing these things will finally make them feel “good enough“. But every time you choose someone who won’t choose you, every time you over-give, over-achieve or over-explain yourself, you reinforce your limiting belief that you have to earn your worth. 🥺 But this is just a lie you learned as a young kid who didn’t know any better; as an adult, you’re still chasing the feeling you…
One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
If you’ve left an unhealthy/toxic/abusive relationship and you’re wondering why you still feel so shit, your nervous system is likely still fried. 🍳 Survival mode doesn’t just switch off the moment you end the relationship – and the longer you’ve been with your nervous system in overdrive, the more time you’ll need to heal it. The frazzled-ness lingers in your thoughts, your habits, your reactions… until you finally teach your body and mind that you’re safe now.…
If, in your relationship, you feel like you have to monitor your words, your tone, your behaviour, your mood and basically your entire existence to keep your partner happy, this is a mahoosive red flag – it’s not love. 🚩 You stay because you crave connection with them and your nervous system has become used to being happy enough with the bare minimum breadcrumbs they give you. Because you’ve normalised it so much, it feels familiar and…
“You become like the five people you spend the most time with” is one of my fave quotes. 🫶🏻 If you keep surrounding yourself with negative, lazy, toxic, dramatic people who love a good whinge, it’s going to rub off on you too and your life will start to look like theirs. Energy rubs off. Mindsets rub off. Standards rub off; do you really want to lower your standards or raise them? 🤔 So if you spend most…