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Relationships are about the trash cans

  If you haven’t ever heard of a guy called Mathew Hussey talking about relationships, you need to find him on YouTube now.   He’s amazeballs, love his work.   One of the best things I’ve ever heard him talk about is how relationships are about the trash cans.   He talks about being taken to Disneyland by his folks as a 13 year old, and how excited he was.   He couldn’t articulate why at the time, but he…

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I don’t know who I am anymore: the death of identity

As I approach “mid life,” I notice that more and more people around me are starting to feel like they don’t know who they are anymore.   The age milestone of 40 seems to bring with it a loss of identity for a lot of people.   Relationship breakdowns, divorce, bring with it the loss of identity as a husband, wife, family unit.   We lose grandparents and parents, and get closer to being next in line.   Maybe we suddenly…

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A great analogy about relationships

  I was listening to a Lewis Howes interview with Mathew Hussey this week (they’re both awesome) and Mathew gave a great analogy about relationships and building a castle.   He said too many people out there base their whole relationship on the connection with their partner and the potential they have together.   He said this is like buying an amazing plot of land together, in a beautiful landscape.   My ideal plot of land is by the ocean.…

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How do you protect yourself from emotional pain?

  I’ve been listening to a few interviews with Michael Singer recently, author of The Untethered Soul.   He wrote this book a long time ago but I only recently came across his work watching an interview he did with Oprah, where she said reading his book was a game changer for her.   He gives some great metaphors for how we hold on to emotional pain and attempt to protect ourselves from further pain.   If you had a…

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How to survive the end of a toxic relationship

Last week I received a message from a friend after I posted my blog “5 signs you’re dating a toxic person.”My friend said this blog came at the perfect time as she was getting ready to leave her toxic partner.Toxic people show traits of narcissism and borderline personality disorder among other things; they have attachment issues from childhood which tends to create a toxic playground and codependency in their adult relationships.We’ve kept in touch the last few days while she…

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How to deal with someone who is always playing the victim

I was sat next to an older lady getting her nails done the other day. About 5 minutes after I sat down to get mine done she starts telling me all about her life.An hour later I knew she’d had a heart attack 8 years ago and that’s why she was sweating so much, she has a pacemaker and recently she broke her finger saving a puppy and now can’t feel any pain in that hand – I also knew…

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