There’s a quiet trap many emotionally intelligent, empathetic people fall into – and I’ve been there in most of my past relationships too. You’re not in love with how they’re showing up right now. You’re in love with who you know they could be. 🤔 You see their depth (you think), their wounds, the backstory that created those wounds, the insight they almost have. You can picture the future version of them so clearly it feels irresponsible not to…
I was watching MAFS the other day (Married At First Sight for those not in the know), and the couples are nearing the end of the experiment. The final challenge was for the group of wives to spend the day together, and so did the husbands. Both groups rock up for their separate lunches and are then told they are going to meet the other person they were matched with. 😳 What unfolded was so interesting; at the moment…
If, in your relationship, you feel like you have to monitor your words, your tone, your behaviour, your mood and basically your entire existence to keep your partner happy, this is a mahoosive red flag – it’s not love. 🚩 You stay because you crave connection with them and your nervous system has become used to being happy enough with the bare minimum breadcrumbs they give you. Because you’ve normalised it so much, it feels familiar and…
Emotional pain gets a bad rap; but at least pain actually moves you. Confusion paralyses you and keeps you stuck. 😳 PAIN HAS A JOB. CONFUSION JUST SITS THERE LIKE A USELESS EX. Pain is clear, loud, uncomfortable. When something hurts enough, you do something about it. You leave, you speak up, you change. Pain forces action. 🏃♀️ But confusion sucks and keeps you in limbo, saying things to yourself like… “Maybe I’m overreacting…” “Maybe it’ll get better…” “Maybe…
From stress drinking to zero desire for alcohol – this was a wild session! One of the coolest healing techniques I learned a few years ago involves removing energetic stress webs – think of them like energetic cobwebs. 🕸️ These webs form when the adrenals, hypothalamus and pituitary gland become locked in overdrive communication with each other. When the stress response stays switched on long enough, the body can create energetic webs wrapped around different areas of the body…
Recently I’ve been chatting to a few clients about situations they’re in where they feel stuck in the “in-between”. 🥺 Limbo presents its own kind of challenges; it’s not about hitting rock bottom, it’s not chaotic, it’s not a blow-up moment where you’re forced into making a change. Limbo is the awkward, frustrated space that sucks the life out of you because you know something has to change, and you know what you want (or what you don’t want),…