When I first started working for myself (and for many years into my biz, to be honest), I made myself available to my clients WAY more than I should have. Back then I was a “helper” type, which I still am, but a helper type without boundaries means having zero boundaries on your time, space and energy and easily shifting from helper into rescuer/enabler. 🫣 When you’re always available for calls, texts, voice notes, the “can I pick your…
I started using healing and personal development tools in my early twenties. For a lot of that time I wasn’t that flush with money and for some of it, in loads of debt. 😬 In my business (coaching, energy work and teaching Reiki), a big issue for a lot of people is wanting to heal but saying they can’t afford to. But there is SO much you can do completely for free. 🤗 I’m constantly giving out my free…
One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
I once listened to an amazing Tim Ferris podcast where he interviewed Catherine Hoke, the “master of second chances.” Catherine runs the not for profit Defy Ventures, which is an entrepreneurship, employment and character development program for currently and formerly incarcerated men, women and youth. I spent 18 years working in Corrections and mental health with people with various labels, and I really resonated with Catherine’s commitment to wanting to make a difference to the planet by…
I often come across Reiki students who are chomping at the bit to learn as much as they can about healing and personal development. I’ll be teaching them Reiki one day and they mention they’ve just learned reflexology, next minute they’re learning tarot, they’re going for a 4 day retreat, doing a bunch of other healing techniques one after the other to “heal” themselves. I don’t blame them – when I first got into this world I was soooo…
Recently I shared a blog called “Are You The Red Flag?” and promised to follow up with some more examples of what some more red flags can look like from those clients who’ve been wounded in past relationships and are now bringing their baggage into the next one. So here we are! REAL EXAMPLES (FROM MY CLIENTS) 🚩 I’m not talking about the obvious red flags like cheating or abuse… I’m talking about the sneaky…