One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
Back when I started my healing/personal development journey I was in my early twenties, so I’ve been on that journey for 20+ years now. Myself, my bro and my sis have amazing role models for parents; their relationship has always been on a pedestal for me in terms of their deep love for each other, the way they co-parent us kids, the way they handle any issues, the way they created a business empire from literally nothing except sheer…
I once listened to an amazing Tim Ferris podcast where he interviewed Catherine Hoke, the “master of second chances.” Catherine runs the not for profit Defy Ventures, which is an entrepreneurship, employment and character development program for currently and formerly incarcerated men, women and youth. I spent 18 years working in Corrections and mental health with people with various labels, and I really resonated with Catherine’s commitment to wanting to make a difference to the planet by…
Back when I was in my early twenties I met a group of mates that became my “soul family” – when we met, it felt like we’d known each other for many lifetimes already, and I’d never experienced that feeling with anyone before. 😍 When I met this crew of new mates, a few of them had learned Reiki. One of them was a Reiki Master and she did a session on me, my first ever Reiki…
Recently I shared a blog called “Are You The Red Flag?” and promised to follow up with some more examples of what some more red flags can look like from those clients who’ve been wounded in past relationships and are now bringing their baggage into the next one. So here we are! REAL EXAMPLES (FROM MY CLIENTS) 🚩 I’m not talking about the obvious red flags like cheating or abuse… I’m talking about the sneaky…
You’re second guessing your own feelings. 😔 You feel hurt by the way they treat you, and wonder if you’re just overreacting. You feel uncomfortable with what they’ve said to you, but tell yourself you’re being too sensitive. You KNOW in your gut that something is off, and has been for ages… but you gaslight yourself and convince yourself otherwise. 💨💡 So you continue to minimise, justify and rationalise their words, their actions, their lack…