Have you ever felt totally fine one minute then spent an hour with someone and nek minit you walk away feeling totally drained? Or noticed that certain people, places or situations leave you feeling heavy, anxious, irritated or just… not quite yourself? Welcome to the weird and wonderful world of your energy field. 🌀 I’ve been working with energy for over 21 years, and one of the things I look for during an energy treatment is whether there’s any…
Recently I had one of my Reiki students and long-time healing clients reach out to me and say that after inheriting a piano from a family member, their family have had nothing but bad stuff happen. 🎹 Their general luck went to shit, the health of their daughter and wife was all over the show and both were in a really bad way and they felt life in general had gone downhill since inheriting this family heirloom. The person…
One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
Imagine a world where we’re all taught how to regulate our emotions as kids, see our problems from a different perspective or as growth opportunities, and to have compassion and non-judgement for others. 🌍 A world where we process trauma as it happens, not when we hit a mid-life crisis. How different would that world look? 🧐 Less mental health issues? Less addiction issues? Less reacting and more responding? There are plenty of tools that you can use as…
It rarely starts with a big moment. 🤷🏼♀️ No dramatic fight. No obvious dealbreaker. No clear reason you can point to and say, “This is wrong.” 🤔 As a relationship coach and trauma-informed practitioner who has spent over 20 years working with women in unhealthy dynamics and perpetrators of family violence as a Parole Officer (and having lived it myself in many past relationships) I see this quiet questioning stage all the time. This means awareness is starting to…
The Christmas holidays are already in full swing with end of year work parties galore. 🎄 The time of year when everyone pretends they’re having magical, heart-warming moments when really all they want to do is curl up in bed and avoid everyone, and half the population is actually one passive-aggressive comment away from flipping a table and throat punching that relative they can’t stand. 🤜 If the build up to Christmas and the ensuing family gatherings or relationship…