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When you’re the red flag – examples

  Recently I shared a blog called “Are You The Red Flag?” and promised to follow up with some more examples of what some more red flags can look like from those clients who’ve been wounded in past relationships and are now bringing their baggage into the next one.   So here we are!   REAL EXAMPLES (FROM MY CLIENTS) 🚩   I’m not talking about the obvious red flags like cheating or abuse…   I’m talking about the sneaky…

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Why limbo feels so hard

  Recently I’ve been chatting to a few clients about situations they’re in where they feel stuck in the “in-between”. 🥺 Limbo presents its own kind of challenges; it’s not about hitting rock bottom, it’s not chaotic, it’s not a blow-up moment where you’re forced into making a change. Limbo is the awkward, frustrated space that sucks the life out of you because you know something has to change, and you know what you want (or what you don’t want),…

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When everything was always a drama: How toxic relationships turn emergencies into punishment

  As I write this, I’m mid-air flying to London for an emergency trip back to the UK. ✈️  Cam was there with me when I got some concerning news and he was so amazing, nothing but supportive. 🥰 It wasn’t even a thought that I had to ask for “permission” to book a flight home even though it means all our Christmas plans go out the window.  I had a moment where I thought what this would have been…

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10 Signs you’re being manipulated

  (It’s the subtle shit that steals your power) Manipulation isn’t always the obvious, movie-villain stuff. 🦹  Sometimes it’s soft, sneaky, and served with a side of “but I’m only saying this because I  love you babe.” If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, guilty, or like your brain got fucked over by someone who swears they “did nothing wrong”… I totally know how that feels. 🥺 You’ve probably been manipulated, which is hard to swallow if…

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How to know if it’s toxic or just hard work 💣

    “Relationships take work.” Well yep, that’s true, but there IS a difference between two people working on a healthy relationship and people disguising emotional damage as effort. The latter leads to slowly becoming a shell of yourself. 🐚  All relationships have challenges. Hard conversations, disagreements and growing pains are normal. But if you constantly feel anxious, confused, or like you’re the only one trying to fix things, that’s not “just a rough patch.” That’s a red flag. 🚩 …

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Myth busters: 6 Toxic relationships lies that keep you stuck💣

  ✨ If you’ve ever doubted if it’s really abuse – this one’s for you. For years, I believed every one of these myths. I justified, explained away, and sugar-coated behaviours that were slowly destroying my self-worth – all because I thought that’s what love looked like. It’s time to call bullshit on the lies that keep so many women stuck in painful, confusing, toxic relationships. Let’s bust a few myths, shall we? 👇 ❤️ MYTH #1: “It’s not abuse…

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