Last week I posted a blog on 17 traits of High Functioning Codependents – HFC’s.
Read it here if you missed it:
READ HEREI wanted to follow up with some tips on how to overcome this if you recognised yourself as a HFC. 😳
Healing your HFC personality can be challenging and takes practice, but it’s totally worth it!
Here’s my 5 tips to getting started.
AWARENESS 😳
The first step to healing anything is becoming aware of your patterns and stepping into a place of acceptance – acceptance for where you find yourself and all that’s come into your life because of it.
Have a read through my previous blog and journal on where in your life you’ve:
❤️🩹 prioritised other’s needs over your own
😢 felt responsible for other’s feelings
🥴 been overly self-sacrificing
Accept your patterns without judging yourself and know that now you can see them, you’re able to start changing them.
SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES ✋🏼
One of the things us HFCs find challenging is setting (and reinforcing) boundaries and saying “no”.
Be kind to yourself here and know this will take a bit of practice to get right and for it to start coming naturally.
You wouldn’t expect to know how to drive a car the first time you got in the drivers seat, would you? 🚘
This is about feeling into whether something is a “yes” for you and being able to say “no” without feeling guilty or having to justify yourself as to why you don’t want to do something or see someone.
It may involve seeing less of the people in your life who drain you or take advantage of your HFC traits.
It may even involve cutting them out of your life! 😳
Healthy boundaries preserve your wellbeing and sanity as they give you the much needed space to focus on your OWN needs.
(I know, you may think you don’t have any, but you do!!)
FOCUS ON YOUR OWN SELF-LOVE
Spend more of your time cultivating self-care habits that prioritise your physical, emotional and mental wellbeing.
Take part in activities that bring you joy and fill up your cup – and hang out with people who make you feel loved and worthy. 💞
If you’re not even sure where to start, comment/reply 18 WAYS and I’ll send you my freebie, 18 Ways To Feel Better NOW.
Speak with love and kindness to yourself.
When I was trying to heal my own HFC traits I put together a Project Self Worth playlist to use to increase my sense of self-worth, self-love and self-esteem.
Want it?
Comment/reply LOVE and I’ll send it to you for free. 💫
When you strengthen your love for yourself, setting boundaries and spending time on your own needs comes so easily!
GET HELP
Working with a therapist, coach or energy practitioner, especially if they’re experienced in codependency, can provide you with tools to help you understand your patterns and develop healthier coping strategies.
There are even support groups such as Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) where you can find a sense of community where shared experiences can encourage healing and to know you’re not alone.
DEVELOP EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
HFCs often reply on others for emotional regulation and your mood is then dictated by how someone else is feeling.
Focus on becoming self-sufficient by learning to process your feelings through mindfulness practices, meditation, somatic practices like yoga and EFT/tapping, journaling and self-reflection.
This helps you become aware of your emotions and why you’re feeling them so you can give yourself the time to process them in healthier ways.
It takes time to get into the groove of making yourself Number 1, but as a former-HFC I can promise you it’s SO worth it.
If you want a guide on your own journey of recovery, drop me a message and let’s chat about how coaching and/or energy work can help.
Plus come over and join my free group here.
Catcha on the flip side,
