How many people do you know who introduce themselves by talking about their struggles? 🤔 You only need to sit at a nail bar or coffee shop to hear people around you talking about all the things in their lives that are going wrong. Is this something you do too? Do you define yourself by your problems by saying things like “I’m an anxious person”, “I’m a people-pleaser“, “I’m terrible with money“, “I’ve always had shitty relationships“, “I’m just not…
When I hit 38 after the end of another abusive relationship, I had completely lost trust in my own judgement. I’d discovered my core wound of abandonment and rejection and… fuck me, did it hurt. 😞 Even after having done a shitload of healing, coaching and other personal development tools since my early twenties, this wound knocked the wind out of me. 💨 I needed time and space to heal. A lot of space. Space to reflect on what…
When I met Lyn in March 2025, she had been agoraphobic for around 5 years and barely left her room during that time. 🥺 She was estranged from her family, had survived abusive relationships, was living with complex PTSD after significant grief and loss, had very little support outside of her doctor and psychologist, and certainly wasn’t living the life she wanted. We initially had a video call to discuss her needs and a way forward. She has since…
When I first started working for myself (and for many years into my biz, to be honest), I made myself available to my clients WAY more than I should have. Back then I was a “helper” type, which I still am, but a helper type without boundaries means having zero boundaries on your time, space and energy and easily shifting from helper into rescuer/enabler. 🫣 When you’re always available for calls, texts, voice notes, the “can I pick your…
One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
Imagine a world where we’re all taught how to regulate our emotions as kids, see our problems from a different perspective or as growth opportunities, and to have compassion and non-judgement for others. 🌍 A world where we process trauma as it happens, not when we hit a mid-life crisis. How different would that world look? 🧐 Less mental health issues? Less addiction issues? Less reacting and more responding? There are plenty of tools that you can use as…