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See them as they are, not as how you want them to be

    I see you.   You’re the one that sees the potential in everyone.   You’re the one that gives people leeway for how they’re behaving, because you know the shit they went through in the past.   You know that people usually only hurt people when they are also hurting deep down.   You let them off when they behave badly, because you see the pain in them and know they didn’t really mean it.   One day…

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It’s a happy day today

    Today I paid my deposit on my second block of land, not far from the beach. I’ve been itching to build again since I built my first home by the ocean in 2015/16. But rewind from here to the end of 2018, and I felt like I was in a hole. I’d been in a long term relationship where I’d been taken advantage of financially for a very long time. I found myself with my house in mortgage…

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Are you enabling those you love?

  I heard on a podcast the other day, “enabling comes in many forms”.   How true that is.   enabler /ɪˈneɪblə,ɛˈneɪblə/   A person who encourages or enables negative or self-destructive behaviour in another.   I’ve spent many years in the past enabling others to continue to treat me in a certain way, or continue a certain pattern of behaviour without setting boundaries.   I’ve enabled people to continue an addiction.   I’ve enabled people to continue living in…

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Learn to love being alone

  I’ve never really believed in the old saying “two halves make a whole”.   It never really made sense to me.   Don’t two whole people make a better partnership?   If you’re half a person then you’re always looking for someone else to meet your needs instead of you being able to fill your cup without external sources.   When I was in my 20’s, I remember the feeling of looking at a whole weekend with no plans.…

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None of it was a waste

Sometimes I feel an almost overwhelming sadness about how much time I’ve wasted in relationships with men who didn’t deserve my love and time.   And then I reflect on all the lessons I’ve learned and realise they all got me to where I am today.   As I fast approach 40, I’m in an amazing place in my life where for maybe the first time ever there is a sense of balance and happiness in every single area of…

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Do you feel stuck in a negative environment?

I caught up with a friend last week who was sharing how stuck he feels in life at the moment. One of the things that is stopping him from moving forward is his negative home environment. If you’re feeling stuck and are living or working in a negative environment, and it’s stopping you from knowing how to move forward, watch my video where I share tips on how to get unstuck. TOP TIPS – Change your inner world to change…

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