One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
Imagine a world where we’re all taught how to regulate our emotions as kids, see our problems from a different perspective or as growth opportunities, and to have compassion and non-judgement for others. 🌍 A world where we process trauma as it happens, not when we hit a mid-life crisis. How different would that world look? 🧐 Less mental health issues? Less addiction issues? Less reacting and more responding? There are plenty of tools that you can use as…
I’ve been practicing energy work and teaching Reiki for over 20 years now, and I see keeping on top of my energy hygiene as being as important as brushing my teeth and showering every day. 🚿 🪥 WHAT IS ENERGY HYGIENE? It’s the regular practices you use to keep your energy, mood, nervous system, physical and mental health and emotional state clear, grounded, and not bogged down by everyone else’s shite. If I hadn’t kept on top of my…
Back when I started my healing/personal development journey I was in my early twenties, so I’ve been on that journey for 20+ years now. Myself, my bro and my sis have amazing role models for parents; their relationship has always been on a pedestal for me in terms of their deep love for each other, the way they co-parent us kids, the way they handle any issues, the way they created a business empire from literally nothing except sheer…
If you’ve left an unhealthy/toxic/abusive relationship and you’re wondering why you still feel so shit, your nervous system is likely still fried. 🍳 Survival mode doesn’t just switch off the moment you end the relationship – and the longer you’ve been with your nervous system in overdrive, the more time you’ll need to heal it. The frazzled-ness lingers in your thoughts, your habits, your reactions… until you finally teach your body and mind that you’re safe now.…
Recently I shared a blog called “Are You The Red Flag?” and promised to follow up with some more examples of what some more red flags can look like from those clients who’ve been wounded in past relationships and are now bringing their baggage into the next one. So here we are! REAL EXAMPLES (FROM MY CLIENTS) 🚩 I’m not talking about the obvious red flags like cheating or abuse… I’m talking about the sneaky…