13 years ago I was… 🇬🇧 living in freezing cold London dreaming of living in Australia 🌧️ clinically depressed 🤯 stuck as a carer for an abusive psychotic partner 💰 broke 😩 in despair 😔 couldn’t see a way out at times 🤯 living in survival mode each day 🥺 disconnected from a lot of friends, family and most of all myself These days I’m… 🇦🇺 living in sunny Australia 😌 mentally healthy 🥰 with…
I spent a good chunk of my life between my mid twenties to my late thirties in unhealthy codependent relationships. A codependent relationship is a love addiction where we seek to prove our worth by helping people with broken wings💔 We’re drawn to addicts and under-functioners who’ll depend on us emotionally, financially or in some other way. We also have a tendency to attract very narcissistic and abusive people who have a lot of shit…
I saw recently there has been a 30% increase in a google search for “how to find work life balance”. With the last couple of years of the pandemic, a lot more peeps have been working from home. This really blurs the boundary between work life and home life. It’s also always been this way for those of us who run businesses, especially those who run a biz on the side of full time work. …
I see you. You’re the one that sees the potential in everyone. You’re the one that gives people leeway for how they’re behaving, because you know the shit they went through in the past. You know that people usually only hurt people when they are also hurting deep down. You let them off when they behave badly, because you see the pain in them and know they didn’t really mean it. One day…
Today I paid my deposit on my second block of land, not far from the beach. I’ve been itching to build again since I built my first home by the ocean in 2015/16. But rewind from here to the end of 2018, and I felt like I was in a hole. I’d been in a long term relationship where I’d been taken advantage of financially for a very long time. I found myself with my house in mortgage…
I heard on a podcast the other day, “enabling comes in many forms”. How true that is. enabler /ɪˈneɪblə,ɛˈneɪblə/ A person who encourages or enables negative or self-destructive behaviour in another. I’ve spent many years in the past enabling others to continue to treat me in a certain way, or continue a certain pattern of behaviour without setting boundaries. I’ve enabled people to continue an addiction. I’ve enabled people to continue living in…