How often do you make decisions based on what other people might think? 🤔 Have you ever… 👍🏼 Said “yes” when you wanted to say “no” or “fck off”? 🤐 Stayed quiet to keep the peace? 🧐 Changed your opinion because someone disagreed with you? Put everyone else’s needs before your own? If so, you might be abandoning your authentic self because you’re seeking external validation and approval. For most people, this starts in childhood. 👧 If…
One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
There’s a quiet trap many emotionally intelligent, empathetic people fall into – and I’ve been there in most of my past relationships too. You’re not in love with how they’re showing up right now. You’re in love with who you know they could be. 🤔 You see their depth (you think), their wounds, the backstory that created those wounds, the insight they almost have. You can picture the future version of them so clearly it feels irresponsible not to…
I do a lot of energy treatments every week, seeing anywhere between 1-40 people across 1:1 in person treatments, distant healings and group healings, and you know what the common theme is that I find? A lack of self-love. 💔 After more than two decades working in energy healing, teaching Reiki and coaching clients through trauma-informed transformation, treating thousands of people both in person and remotely, I’ve developed a very clear pattern-recognition muscle. Energy fields don’t lie. 🤷🏼♀️ Long…
As I write this, I’m mid-air flying to London for an emergency trip back to the UK. ✈️ Cam was there with me when I got some concerning news and he was so amazing, nothing but supportive. 🥰 It wasn’t even a thought that I had to ask for “permission” to book a flight home even though it means all our Christmas plans go out the window. I had a moment where I thought what this would have been…
Every year around December, people find themselves wondering… “Why do I feel so emotional?” “Why am I anxious, overwhelmed or irritated?” “Why does Christmas feel… heavy?” And if you’re someone who grew up with chaos, criticism, emotional inconsistency or any version of “walking on eggshells,” then Christmas isn’t just a holiday season… 🎄 It’s a somatic time machine. This is because Christmas activates the same parts of the brain as emotional memories from childhood. Christmas isn’t just a one-off…