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When you’re the red flag – examples

  Recently I shared a blog called “Are You The Red Flag?” and promised to follow up with some more examples of what some more red flags can look like from those clients who’ve been wounded in past relationships and are now bringing their baggage into the next one.   So here we are!   REAL EXAMPLES (FROM MY CLIENTS) 🚩   I’m not talking about the obvious red flags like cheating or abuse…   I’m talking about the sneaky…

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Why you can sometimes feel worse after a healing session (And why it’s actually a good sign)

  My clients walk into a session feeling heavy, stuck, anxious, drained… and leave feeling lighter. 🙌🏻   A lot of them just continue to feel amazing – they get a great sleep and feel happy and light.   But for some clients, this isn’t the case for the first few days. 🥴   They’re emotional, tired, headachy, irritable.   They have weird dreams, old memories popping up. Their body feels like it’s processing something.   And they start thinking;…

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Why confusion is keeping you stuck

  Emotional pain gets a bad rap; but at least pain actually moves you. Confusion paralyses you and keeps you stuck. 😳 PAIN HAS A JOB. CONFUSION JUST SITS THERE LIKE A USELESS EX. Pain is clear, loud, uncomfortable. When something hurts enough, you do something about it. You leave, you speak up, you change. Pain forces action. 🏃‍♀️  But confusion sucks and keeps you in limbo, saying things to yourself like… “Maybe I’m overreacting…” “Maybe it’ll get better…” “Maybe…

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Why Christmas hits your childhood wounds harder than at any other time of year

  Every year around December, people find themselves wondering… “Why do I feel so emotional?” “Why am I anxious, overwhelmed or irritated?” “Why does Christmas feel… heavy?” And if you’re someone who grew up with chaos, criticism, emotional inconsistency or any version of “walking on eggshells,” then Christmas isn’t just a holiday season… 🎄 It’s a somatic time machine. This is because Christmas activates the same parts of the brain as emotional memories from childhood. Christmas isn’t just a one-off…

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You’re so used to managing everyone else’s emotions you have no idea what you feel anymore…

  You’ve spent years being the emotional airbag for everyone else… cushioning their crashes, absorbing their outbursts, translating their moods, and tip-toeing through their triggers. Meanwhile, your own emotional world is crumbling. 🤯 You’ve become so hyper-attuned to their feelings that you’ve been completely ignoring your own. Maybe you grew up walking on eggshells, reading the room before you could even read words.  Maybe somewhere along the line you decided that peace was maintained by keeping everyone else happy… even…

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Stop fawning, start yawning: How to break the cycle of people-pleasing

I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…

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