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The quality of your emotions equals the quality of your life

  Do you agree with this statement?   On a daily basis I work with clients who struggle to manage their emotions.   Some are completely disconnected from them and have a hard time knowing how to even state what emotion they are feeling other than simply “good” or “bad”.   Being completely disconnected is often a protection mechanism – they feel they might unlock Pandora’s box and face all the shit they’re avoiding if they start to delve into…

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You drown not by falling in the river, but by staying submerged in it

  Life is full of ups and downs, where it can feel like the shit hitting the fan will never end. This is a guaranteed part of life. But like old mate Tony Robbins says, pain is part of life; suffering is optional. Granted, when life gives you lemons, you can feel very triggered, angry, hurt, upset, resentful, bitter… and if this goes on for long enough you risk burnout, anxiety and depression. We can be our own worst enemy…

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Would you rather be in pain than spend time alone with yourself?

I was listening to a Jay Shetty video the other day and he quoted a study where people were given the option of either sitting in a room with their own thoughts for 15 minutes, or giving themselves an electric shock. 60% of men and 30% of women gave themselves a shock, rather than spend 15 minutes alone with their own head. Which would you choose? I know so many people who would really struggle to sit alone and do…

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Don’t invalidate your feelings

So often when I’m speaking with a coaching client, they’ll be telling me about their feelings and then invalidating how they feel in the same sentence by saying; “Well I mean I shouldn’t moan really, it’s not like I’m starving in Africa or anything.” True. But why compare how you’re feeling with others? Do you think that because you’re not starving, you’re feelings don’t count? Your feelings don’t matter? It’s important not to suppress your emotions by invalidating them. Everyone…

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