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An open reply to an email I received

  Last week I got the following email via the contact form on my website: “All this advice, advice, advice!  Why doesn’t anyone EVER acknowledge the limitations put upon us by those who control the narrative?  Those who make the laws and decide our options?  It’s near to impossible to create the life you want when society decides it for you and expects you to toe the line?  I’m all for making my dreams come true… if only “they” would…

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Stop apologising for…

    We live in a culture of apologising for who we are; the British especially are excellent at apologising for no reason at all. 🤷🏼‍♀️    How often do you apologise for…   🤔 asking questions  🛑 not being available all the time 🥹 your feelings  🤷🏼‍♀️ vocalising your needs 👣 outgrowing a place, person or situation  👏🏼 your accomplishments  ☺️ not looking presentable  😍 doing things that make you happy ❌ having boundaries  🏠 having a messy house…

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Heal your pain with forgiveness

    Last week I was chatting with a friend who is on a break from her boyfriend.    She was having a hard time dealing with it and was wanting to heal her pain, so I explained a process to her that I’ve found really helpful in the past.   It’s called ho’oponopono and it’s a Hawaiian mantra for reparation, healing and forgiveness.   The process is really simple ~ you bring to mind a certain situation or memory…

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From codependent relationships to healthy love

    I spent a good chunk of my life between my mid twenties to my late thirties in unhealthy codependent relationships.    A codependent relationship is a love addiction where we seek to prove our worth by helping people with broken wings💔   We’re drawn to addicts and under-functioners who’ll depend on us emotionally, financially or in some other way.    We also have a tendency to attract very narcissistic and abusive people who have a lot of shit…

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The quality of your emotions equals the quality of your life

  Do you agree with this statement?   On a daily basis I work with clients who struggle to manage their emotions.   Some are completely disconnected from them and have a hard time knowing how to even state what emotion they are feeling other than simply “good” or “bad”.   Being completely disconnected is often a protection mechanism – they feel they might unlock Pandora’s box and face all the shit they’re avoiding if they start to delve into…

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You drown not by falling in the river, but by staying submerged in it

  Life is full of ups and downs, where it can feel like the shit hitting the fan will never end. This is a guaranteed part of life. But like old mate Tony Robbins says, pain is part of life; suffering is optional. Granted, when life gives you lemons, you can feel very triggered, angry, hurt, upset, resentful, bitter… and if this goes on for long enough you risk burnout, anxiety and depression. We can be our own worst enemy…

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