Ever feel like you’ve read all the self-help books, journalled until you got RSI, and sat through therapy sessions nodding along… but still feel like you’re dealing with the same old shit? 💩
Yeah. You’re not the only one, legend.
That’s because there are some sneaky AF emotional patterns that may be keeping you stuck. 😣
They’re subtle, quiet, and disguised as “normal” – but they’ll keep you spinning in circles until you drag them into the light.
Here are five of the silent saboteurs:
- The “Helper High” Trap
You get your worth from being the fixer, rescuer, or advice hotline for everyone else. ☎️
Sounds noble, right?
Except you’re left with crumbs while everyone else feasts off your energy. 🧛♀️
This pattern keeps you stuck because helping others becomes your identity – and when you’re not saving someone, you feel useless.
This was totally a trap I fell into, until I learned how much it was keeping me stuck.
- The Drama Comfort Zone
You swear you hate chaos, so why do you always have so much drama entering your life?! 🦙
Deep down, your nervous system is addicted to it.
Secretly, you love talking about it to others, because it gets you attention, so in some way you feel seen/heard/validated – even when the listener is rolling their eyes because the drama llama always seems to be around you. 🙄
Calm feels foreign, even unsafe, so your body unconsciously seeks out situations (or people) that keep you in survival mode.
You’re not broken – you’re wired for what’s familiar. But familiar doesn’t mean healthy.
- The “I’ll Be Happy When…” Myth
Your brain whispers: “I’ll feel worthy when I get the job, the house, the partner, the six-pack abs.” 💪🏻
But the finish line keeps moving, and you never actually arrive.
It’s a silent pattern of conditional self-worth where you’re constantly outsourcing your happiness to the next milestone.
Happiness is an inside job (sorry, I know, it’s savage) – meaning external sources will never truly make you happy.
- Emotional Hoarding
You think you’re “coping” by shoving your feelings into the mental junk drawer. 🤫
But emotions don’t evaporate – you’re just repressing them to pop out later.
They stack, ferment, and eventually explode (usually at the worst possible time). 🤯
This pattern keeps you in a loop of suppression -> burnout -> blow-up -> guilt -> repeat.
- Identity Glue
You cling to outdated roles or labels like “the strong one,” “the responsible one,” or “the one who never quits.”
These roles might’ve kept you safe once, but now they’re superglue keeping you stuck.
Who are you if you’re not that identity? That question feels terrifying – so you avoid it and stay in the same cycle. 🔃
You’re not stuck because you’re lazy, broken, or incapable.
You’re stuck because you’ve been running these emotional patterns on autopilot – patterns nobody warned you about.
The moment you notice them is the moment you can choose differently.
So, legend: which of these sneaky patterns do you see in yourself? 🤔
And more importantly… which one are you ready to smash first?
As always, if you want a guide on your journey, drop me a message and let’s chat about how coaching and/or energy work can help.
Catcha on the flip side,
