Recently I’ve been feeling very burnt out. I do plenty of self care and self love stuff, I really listen to my body and do things every day to fill my own cup. I’m not sure yet what the message is that my body is trying to give me, but I’m listening. Today, as I write this, I’ve taken the day off to nourish myself. I’ve done some EFT (tapping) and yoga for burnout which…
How would your life be if you truly loved, honoured and respected yourself? If you honoured your needs each day? If you lived in integrity with your values in each moment? I find this is a really useful – and often – confronting question to ask my clients, one they get pretty immediate answers to. I work with a lot of very natural “helper” types – I’m one of those too. There can…
I heard on a podcast the other day, “enabling comes in many forms”. How true that is. enabler /ɪˈneɪblə,ɛˈneɪblə/ A person who encourages or enables negative or self-destructive behaviour in another. I’ve spent many years in the past enabling others to continue to treat me in a certain way, or continue a certain pattern of behaviour without setting boundaries. I’ve enabled people to continue an addiction. I’ve enabled people to continue living in…
** Image care of my super chill Squishy 🥰 Recently I wrote a blog called “you drown not by falling in the river, but by staying submerged in it.” This blog was all about how to process feelings if you’re feeling overwhelmed. But there are things that we can do on a daily or weekly basis to calm our nervous system, to stop us getting to that place of overwhelm. When stress levels are high, using positive daily habits…
Life is full of ups and downs, where it can feel like the shit hitting the fan will never end. This is a guaranteed part of life. But like old mate Tony Robbins says, pain is part of life; suffering is optional. Granted, when life gives you lemons, you can feel very triggered, angry, hurt, upset, resentful, bitter… and if this goes on for long enough you risk burnout, anxiety and depression. We can be our own worst enemy…
After spending most of my life helping others, and often (in the past) to my detriment, I thought I’d share some learnings that I wish someone had shared with me. PEOPLE CAN CHANGE, BUT WE CAN’T CHANGE THEM As a helper type it’s so natural to want to dive in and help people we see in need, especially those closest to us. We do this because we believe everyone has the capacity to change; over time, we…