I’ve been blamed by more than one person for being the cause for their relationship ending.
And I’m totally fine with it.
Because it has nothing to do with cheating – it’s because I’ve been their partners’ coach and/or energy worker/Reiki teacher.
My absolute passion in life is helping my clients to fulfil their potential; to become the best version of themselves, clearing whatever is holding them back, healing their past trauma, and figuring out whatever their version of a best life is. 😍
And sometimes when someone starts doing that work on themselves, their relationship doesn’t survive the upgrade.
Not because coaching is responsible for breaking people up, but because growth shines a big flashing neon light on not-so-great things that were already there.
- THEY START SEEING THE RED FLAGS CLEARLY 🚩
When you’re in a relationship that’s unhealthy, it’s very easy to normalise behaviour that’s actually not ok.
Gaslighting, manipulation, emotional abuse, financial control, or constantly feeling like you’re walking on eggshells can slowly become your “new normal”.
Coaching helps people step back and see the bigger picture from an observer standpoint.
Once someone understands what healthy relationships actually look like, it’s very hard to keep pretending that something toxic is “normal”.
Once you see it… you can’t unsee it.
- THEIR SELF-WORTH INCREASES
A lot of my clients come to me feeling like they’re not enough. 🥺
Not good enough, not worthy enough, not loveable enough. They’ve also often been told they’re “too much” so they shrink who they really are.
When someone begins doing the work to increase their self-love and self-worth, something powerful happens.
They stop tolerating behaviour they’ve put up with their whole lives.
They start setting boundaries. ✋🏼
And sometimes the people around them don’t like that change.
When someone finally believes they deserve respect, kindness and love, the dynamic of the relationship shifts completely.
- THEY STOP ENABLING SH1T BEHAVIOUR 💩
Many peeps who come to me for coaching are natural helpers and carers.
They over-give, rescue, “fix”… and ultimate enable peoples’ behaviour to continue instead of changing it.
When clients start learning how to stop enabling and start setting boundaries instead, some relationships improve… and others fall apart.
Which in my opinion, isn’t a bad thing – because the relationship wasn’t a balanced one anyway.
- THEY LEARN TO LISTEN TO THEIR GUT
Most people already know deep down when something isn’t right, but they’ve learned to talk themselves out of it; they ignore the red flags, they minimise the behaviour, they tell themselves they’re overreacting.
Coaching helps people reconnect with their intuition and trust themselves again.
And when someone finally starts listening to that inner voice saying “this isn’t right for me”… it can change everything. 💫
- THEY REALISE THEIR HAPPINESS MATTERS TOO
So many people spend years putting everyone else first; their partner, their kids, their job, their family.
They become exhausted, resentful and burnt out, often losing themselves in the process.
Sometimes coaching just helps someone realise:
“I don’t want to live like this anymore.”
That moment of realisation – the “not this, not anymore” moment – can be the turning point where someone finally decides to change their life.
And occasionally, that change includes leaving a relationship that isn’t healthy for them.
SO AM I THE REASON FOR THEIR BREAK UP?
Not really.
The sh1tty relationship dynamics were already there.
All coaching does is help someone become more self-aware, more confident, and more honest with themselves.
Sometimes that leads to healthier communication and stronger relationships. 💪🏻
And sometimes it leads to people walking away from something that was never truly right for them.
But either way, the end result is the same:
A person who is happier, stronger, and far more aligned with the life they actually want to live. 💞
And I’ll happily take the blame for that.
READY TO START PUTTING YOURSELF FIRST?
If you’ve been feeling stuck, exhausted, or questioning whether your relationship is actually healthy for you, you’re not alone; and you also don’t have to figure it all out on your own.
DM me if you’d like to chat about working together and starting your own journey toward stronger self-worth, healthier boundaries and a life that actually feels good to live. 💝
Because you deserve a relationship where you’re respected, valued and loved for who you truly are.
You’re worth it; and it’s time you started acting like it.
Much love,
