One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
If you’ve left an unhealthy/toxic/abusive relationship and you’re wondering why you still feel so shit, your nervous system is likely still fried. 🍳 Survival mode doesn’t just switch off the moment you end the relationship – and the longer you’ve been with your nervous system in overdrive, the more time you’ll need to heal it. The frazzled-ness lingers in your thoughts, your habits, your reactions… until you finally teach your body and mind that you’re safe now.…
I’ve been blamed by more than one person for being the cause for their relationship ending. And I’m totally fine with it. Because it has nothing to do with cheating – it’s because I’ve been their partners’ coach and/or energy worker/Reiki teacher. My absolute passion in life is helping my clients to fulfil their potential; to become the best version of themselves, clearing whatever is holding them back, healing their past trauma, and figuring out whatever their version of…
A few days ago I did my first live video in a while sharing how it’s been a shit couple of months for myself and Hot Fiance – not between us, but around us. 🥺 I’ve had this level of anxiety building at times because for around four months now I’ve been working with my team to get my business set up so that during those times that the sht hits the fan, I’ll have passive income streams in my…
As I write this, I’m mid-air flying to London for an emergency trip back to the UK. ✈️ Cam was there with me when I got some concerning news and he was so amazing, nothing but supportive. 🥰 It wasn’t even a thought that I had to ask for “permission” to book a flight home even though it means all our Christmas plans go out the window. I had a moment where I thought what this would have been…
“Have you ever considered bankruptcy?” 🧐 My stomach dropped when she suggested that to me. I was having a chat with My Budget, exploring options to get me out of the hole I’d gotten myself into. 🕳️ I was sitting in my newly built house, not being able to afford toilet roll. No landscaping, no blinds, and concrete floors after living there for three years. How did I let this happen? 🥺 I’d spent almost 8 years at…