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Stop dating them for their potential

  There’s a quiet trap many emotionally intelligent, empathetic people fall into – and I’ve been there in most of my past relationships too. You’re not in love with how they’re showing up right now. You’re in love with who you know they could be. 🤔 You see their depth (you think), their wounds, the backstory that created those wounds, the insight they almost have. You can picture the future version of them so clearly it feels irresponsible not to…

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Walking on eggshells isn’t love

  If, in your relationship, you feel like you have to monitor your words, your tone, your behaviour, your mood and basically your entire existence to keep your partner happy, this is a mahoosive red flag – it’s not love. 🚩    You stay because you crave connection with them and your nervous system has become used to being happy enough with the bare minimum breadcrumbs they give you.   Because you’ve normalised it so much, it feels familiar and…

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5 Reasons why I get blamed for relationship break ups

  I’ve been blamed by more than one person for being the cause for their relationship ending. And I’m totally fine with it.  Because it has nothing to do with cheating – it’s because I’ve been their partners’ coach and/or energy worker/Reiki teacher. My absolute passion in life is helping my clients to fulfil their potential; to become the best version of themselves, clearing whatever is holding them back, healing their past trauma, and figuring out whatever their version of…

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Break The Cycle: A webinar for women ready to stop self-abandoning in relationships

  There came a moment in my past abusive relationships where something inside me said “not this, not anymore“.   Initially, it was a whisper, and the whisper got louder until I just couldn’t ignore it.  If this is happening to you right now too, it may still be a whisper that you don’t fully trust yet – and that’s totally ok.  But you are feeling it. Thinking it. Knowing it, deep in your bones somewhere.  That nagging feeling that…

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When everything was always a drama: How toxic relationships turn emergencies into punishment

  As I write this, I’m mid-air flying to London for an emergency trip back to the UK. ✈️  Cam was there with me when I got some concerning news and he was so amazing, nothing but supportive. 🥰 It wasn’t even a thought that I had to ask for “permission” to book a flight home even though it means all our Christmas plans go out the window.  I had a moment where I thought what this would have been…

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Why Christmas hits your childhood wounds harder than at any other time of year

  Every year around December, people find themselves wondering… “Why do I feel so emotional?” “Why am I anxious, overwhelmed or irritated?” “Why does Christmas feel… heavy?” And if you’re someone who grew up with chaos, criticism, emotional inconsistency or any version of “walking on eggshells,” then Christmas isn’t just a holiday season… 🎄 It’s a somatic time machine. This is because Christmas activates the same parts of the brain as emotional memories from childhood. Christmas isn’t just a one-off…

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