Yep – me, a Coach, said it. 🤷🏼♀️
You don’t have to change.
You don’t have to leave the relationship, set the boundary, stop people-pleasing, change jobs, go to counselling or work on your self-worth.
You don’t have to do any of it; it’s your life.
BUT…
You can’t keep saying you desperately want your life to be different while refusing to do anything differently. 🤔
At some point, we have to stop bullshitting ourselves.
MAYBE YOU’RE JUST NOT READY YET
Sometimes we know exactly what needs to change… we’re just not ready to change it.
There’s nothing wrong with admitting:
“I know this isn’t working for me, but I’m not ready to do anything about it yet.”
Because “I can’t” and “I’m not ready” are very different things.
One makes you powerless. 🥺
The other acknowledges that the choice is still yours.
Throughout Choose Yourself Month, we’ve talked about boundaries, self-trust, people-pleasing, authenticity, healing and taking action.
But awareness only gets us so far.
Eventually, something has to change.
Not everything: just one decision at a time. ☝🏻
One moment where you choose yourself instead of automatically choosing everyone else.
One of my Project Self Worth clients, Jill, described what doing that work changed for her:
“Best work I’ve ever done! I never imagined I was codependent as I was so independent in life, how wrong I was… being a rescuer/people-pleaser was the most soul destroying place to be. Doing the work on self-love and respect has been the best thing ever! Sure, I still have moments that are hard but using the tools I’ve learned quickly pull me back and also shows me red flags coming from a mile away…”
That’s the point.
Life doesn’t magically become perfect.
You start showing up differently in it.
So as Choose Yourself Month comes to an end, ask yourself:
Do I genuinely want something to change? 🧐
And if the answer is yes:
What am I prepared to do differently?
PROJECT SELF WORTH – 50% OFF ENDS TONIGHT
If this month has helped you realise “I’m ready to actually work on this”, I’d love to support you.
Project Self Worth is designed to help you understand the patterns keeping you stuck, rebuild your self-worth and self-trust, create healthier boundaries and start choosing yourself.
You still have to do the work.
But you don’t have to figure it all out alone.
YES — I’M READY TO CHOOSE MYSELF
Whether you join me or not, I hope you carry one question with you beyond August:
What would choosing myself look like here?
Much love,
