Have you ever known something wasn’t working anymore but kept flogging that dead horse anyway because you’d already invested so much into it? 🤔
It might be a relationship you’ve spent years trying to fix… a career you’ve spent years and thousands of dollars training for… a business you’ve poured everything into, or a friendship you’ve had since you were young.
It might just be a version of your life you’ve worked really hard to create, that you’ve realised doesn’t actually fit who you are anymore.
There’s a name for this: sunk-cost fallacy.
It’s when we keep investing in something because of how much we’ve already invested – even when continuing isn’t in our best interests. 🤷🏼♀️
I get it – it feels like a cop out if you give up now, after working SO fucking hard on it.
But here’s the thing… staying another five years doesn’t get you the last five years of your life back.
It just costs you another five. 🥺
GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO PIVOT
Changing your mind doesn’t mean you’ve failed.
It just means you’re finally admitting to yourself: “not this, not anymore.“
One of my Project Self Worth clients, Tracey, had been in an unhappy relationship for almost 20 years.
She said:
“I felt lonely, I felt disrespected, I felt I was not moving forward with what I wanted to achieve in my life. I learnt that I am strong and I was able to walk away from a relationship of 18 years.”
– Tracey S
Imagine if she’d told herself:
“Well, I’ve already spent 20 years here… I may as well stay.”
Sometimes choosing yourself means being brave enough to stop investing in something only because you’ve already invested so much.
Your past decisions were made by the outdated version of yourself – you’ve changed a lot since then and you’re allowed to make different decisions with what you know now. 💫
SO ASK YOURSELF:
“If I wasn’t thinking about everything I’ve already invested… would I still choose this today?”
If the answer is no, that’s worth paying attention to.
Changing direction is where you finally choose yourself.
AND SPEAKING OF CHOOSING YOURSELF…
Tomorrow marks the final week of Choose Yourself Month, and I’m doing something special. 💞
Project Self Worth will be 50% off for one week only.
If you’ve spent August recognising yourself in these blogs – the people-pleasing, self-doubt, lack of boundaries, difficulty trusting yourself or knowing something needs to change but not knowing where to start – this might be your opportunity to take the next step. 👣
I’ll share all the details tomorrow.
For today, I just want you to sit with one question:
What are you continuing to choose just because you’re scared to choose something different?
Much love,
