When I hit 38 after the end of another abusive relationship, I had completely lost trust in my own judgement. I’d discovered my core wound of abandonment and rejection and… fuck me, did it hurt. 😞 Even after having done a shitload of healing, coaching and other personal development tools since my early twenties, this wound knocked the wind out of me. 💨 I needed time and space to heal. A lot of space. Space to reflect on what…
So many women spend their lives chasing after love, approval, validation and success, believing these things will finally make them feel “good enough“. But every time you choose someone who won’t choose you, every time you over-give, over-achieve or over-explain yourself, you reinforce your limiting belief that you have to earn your worth. 🥺 But this is just a lie you learned as a young kid who didn’t know any better; as an adult, you’re still chasing the feeling you…
I started using healing and personal development tools in my early twenties. For a lot of that time I wasn’t that flush with money and for some of it, in loads of debt. 😬 In my business (coaching, energy work and teaching Reiki), a big issue for a lot of people is wanting to heal but saying they can’t afford to. But there is SO much you can do completely for free. 🤗 I’m constantly giving out my free…
One of the hardest things about being in a relationship with a covert abuser is the fact that nobody witnesses the abuse. 🥺 Actually, most people see the complete opposite – the charming person, the funny side of them, the helpful side of them, the “empathic” side of them. They might see your partner as the kind of person who’d give you the shirt off their back. 👕 The kind of person everyone loves – while behind closed doors,…
One of the biggest things I see in the personal development world is people confusing authenticity or intuition with acting on every feeling they have. Just because something feels true doesn’t mean it’s coming from your authentic self. Sometimes it’s coming from your wounds and insecurities. Which is a mahoosive difference. Your authentic self says: “This relationship isn’t meeting my needs, so I really need to have an honest conversation with them.” 🗣️ Your insecurity says: “They didn’t text…
One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…