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What happens if my partner isn’t on board with my goals?

  It’s normal for us to want those we love the most to be supportive of our goals.   But sometimes, this isn’t our reality.   Recently a member of my online course asked me, “what do I do if my partner isn’t on board with my goals?”   It totally depends on what the context is around this.   We all have our own personal goals, as well as shared goals with our partner and family.   But sometimes…

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How Is Not Confronting Your Dark Side Serving You?

It doesn’t matter who you are, or how successful you are – we all have shit from our past that can keep us stuck. Old, core wound shit that has led to feelings of being unlovable, unworthy, useless, stupid, not good enough. The core wound shit that has attracted people, situations and relationships into our lives that “prove” that we aren’t good enough over and over – until we do the work to heal our wounds. This stuff happens to all of us on some…

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If I had listened to me, it wouldn’t have happened

I was listening to a podcast last week and the person being interviewed was sharing their story of overcoming a challenge. She said “if I had listened to me, it wouldn’t have happened.” Which situations can you say that about in your life? Where you ignored your gut feeling and ignored your intuition, only to be kicked in the arse by it later? I know I can reflect on many such times. If I had listened to me, I wouldn’t…

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18 life lessons from a helper (recovering rescuer-enabler) type

After spending most of my life helping others, and often (in the past) to my detriment, I thought I’d share some learnings that I wish someone had shared with me.   PEOPLE CAN CHANGE, BUT WE CAN’T CHANGE THEM   As a helper type it’s so natural to want to dive in and help people we see in need, especially those closest to us.   We do this because we believe everyone has the capacity to change; over time, we…

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How are you allowing your partner to treat you?

I was chatting to a friend the other day about a guy she’s been seeing for a few months. She was really upset about the way she’s being treated and she’s well aware that she’s allowing it to happen due to her own limiting beliefs and self-worth issues.  Not everyone is as aware as my friend about how much she is feeding into the situation. A lot of us in relationships can get stuck into blame and victim mode when things aren’t going…

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Not this, not anymore

At some point in our life, most of us get to a point where we are confronted with that awful moment of realisation that we’ve ended up in a bad or sticky spot. You know, that moment where you think ohhhhh shit I need to leave this job/relationship/career/home/country or whatever it is.  Or maybe you realise you need to stop thinking or behaving in a certain way, or that the thing you’ve been blamed for IS actually your fault. Maybe…

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