One of the biggest things I see in the personal development world is people confusing authenticity or intuition with acting on every feeling they have. Just because something feels true doesn’t mean it’s coming from your authentic self. Sometimes it’s coming from your wounds and insecurities. Which is a mahoosive difference. Your authentic self says: “This relationship isn’t meeting my needs, so I really need to have an honest conversation with them.” 🗣️ Your insecurity says: “They didn’t text…
One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
Back when I started my healing/personal development journey I was in my early twenties, so I’ve been on that journey for 20+ years now. Myself, my bro and my sis have amazing role models for parents; their relationship has always been on a pedestal for me in terms of their deep love for each other, the way they co-parent us kids, the way they handle any issues, the way they created a business empire from literally nothing except sheer…
Back when I was in my early twenties I met a group of mates that became my “soul family” – when we met, it felt like we’d known each other for many lifetimes already, and I’d never experienced that feeling with anyone before. 😍 When I met this crew of new mates, a few of them had learned Reiki. One of them was a Reiki Master and she did a session on me, my first ever Reiki…
Recently I shared a blog called “Are You The Red Flag?” and promised to follow up with some more examples of what some more red flags can look like from those clients who’ve been wounded in past relationships and are now bringing their baggage into the next one. So here we are! REAL EXAMPLES (FROM MY CLIENTS) 🚩 I’m not talking about the obvious red flags like cheating or abuse… I’m talking about the sneaky…
There’s a quiet trap many emotionally intelligent, empathetic people fall into – and I’ve been there in most of my past relationships too. You’re not in love with how they’re showing up right now. You’re in love with who you know they could be. 🤔 You see their depth (you think), their wounds, the backstory that created those wounds, the insight they almost have. You can picture the future version of them so clearly it feels irresponsible not to…