As I sit in my dream house in Western Australia, looking at the most beautiful view, working from home with my bulldog snoring next to me, I think about how many years I spent dreaming about this life. 💭
My parents raised us three kids with a very strong work ethic; and boy, do we all work hard (probably way too hard, tbh).
I started working at 13 years old and had a wide range of jobs over the years from working in a gym, personal assistant, in retail, through to an 18 year career as a Parole Officer in London, Sydney and Perth while running my home-based biz as a coach, energy practitioner and Reiki teacher alongside it part time for most of those years.
I never just had one job, I always had at least two – I had four jobs while I was at university.
I’ve always been a very goal-focused person with strong ideas about where I was going, and when I got into the Law of Attraction when I was living in London, I really started to be even more intentional with figuring out what my version was of a dream life.
I knew I wanted to move to Australia from when I first visited when I was 19 years old. I knew from when I was very young (having watched my parents run several businesses) that I wanted to run my own biz.
I knew I wanted a career helping people and I’d always been fascinated with what leads people to the darkest corners of their minds, to do the darkest things they’ve ever done, and to also come out the other side of that.
I had an amazing career in Corrections and loved it for the most part – until I didn’t. I’d set up my biz a couple of years before starting as a Parole Officer and for most of my career worked full time in Corrections, running my biz before/after work and on weekends.
I then phased out into a four day, l three day and two day week at work before going full time biz in Jan 2025 – I’d done full time biz 2016-2018 but it wasn’t enough for me, I missed being part of a team. 🥹
But there comes a time when working in a big-arse Government system just grinds you down, and there were things I couldn’t ignore anymore.
There were responses in my nervous system and physical body that crept up slowly then got way worse; physical pain, crying when I got home from work, feeling angry at a failing system, burnout, irritability and way less tolerance for fuckwits… in the end, I spent more and more time feeling great in my biz and terrible at work. 🥴
Here’s what a typical day/week would look like back then:
🥱 5am wake up, gym, couple of hours to myself or sometimes I’d have a 6am coaching call to an overseas client
📱 Get social media posting done while in the gym
🚘 7-8am head off to work
🫣 Get slammed all day with work and shit often hitting the fan
🤔 Working with clients in Corrections who mostly didn’t want to change
😂 Gallows humour/banter with colleagues kept me going
🐶 Get home, walk the dog
🙌🏻 Have 1-3 clients after work
👩🏼🏫 Teach Reiki on weekends
🥹 Very little time for myself or my relationship
😬 No days off – worked 7 days a week
🤯 Burnout, chronic pain and sickness were common, resulting in my body forcing me to have a week off in bed
Here’s what my day looks like now:
😌 Wake up between 6-7.30am, whatever feels right for my body
🚶 Walk in the national park next to my house
🧖🏼♀️ Home gym and sauna
✍🏻 Start work around 10am
🕙 Have a few clients throughout the day in person or on video across the world for coaching and energy work
👩🏼🏫 Plan Reiki workshops and sound healing events every other weekend when Hot Fiance is away at work
😊 Chronic pain has massively reduced in severity
🤧 Been sick with one minor cold in 18 months after travelling back to London
✍🏻 Write blogs while looking at a gorgeous view surrounded by birds, rabbits and kangaroos 🦘
🏊♀️ Get to dip in the pool or sit in the sauna whenever I feel like it
🙌🏻 Work 5 days a week (because I want to, not because I have to)
🤔 Choose my clients wisely, working only with people who are willing to do the work not who want someone else to fix them
It’s taken/taking a long time for my nervous system to recalibrate and throwing perimenopause into the mix has set me back a bit, but generally speaking, life is a whole lot more l amazing than it used to be – I get so much more time for myself, Hot Fiance, my friends and fun.
Not gunna lie, I still need to make a concerted effort not to just work all the time, because that’s what my conditioning is, but it’s getting easier to chill more. 😌
Do you have a clear idea of how you want to spend your time, days, weeks, months, future?
The first step is getting crystal clear on how you want your life to be, instead of just coasting through.
That’s why I created my free workbook, Carve Out Your Big Vision – to ask yourself all the big juicy questions to help you think about the life you want, as well as sharing my fave tools to help you get there.
You can find the link in my bio. Enjoy 🙂
Catcha on the flip side,
