How often do you make decisions based on what other people might think? 🤔 Have you ever… 👍🏼 Said “yes” when you wanted to say “no” or “fck off”? 🤐 Stayed quiet to keep the peace? 🧐 Changed your opinion because someone disagreed with you? Put everyone else’s needs before your own? If so, you might be abandoning your authentic self because you’re seeking external validation and approval. For most people, this starts in childhood. 👧 If…
After all the trauma you’ve endured and how much you’ve grown from it, you might start telling yourself “I’ve got this,” when you realise you’re one of the most independent people you know. It seems like confidence on the surface because you’re a strong, capable and independent person. 💪🏻 But what can seem like confidence may actually be the result of your nervous system learning that relying on other people wasn’t safe. Your brain has adapted because you were…
How long have you been putting something off because you keep telling yourself… “I’ll do it when I feel more confident.” Confidence doesn’t come first. You grow your confidence by DOING THE THING. 🤗 So many people are waiting for the perfect time, the right qualification, more money, more experience, more energy or more certainty. The problem is… none of those things create confidence. Taking action does. When I started my own business, I wasn’t overflowing with confidence. I…
One of the hardest things about being in a relationship with a covert abuser is the fact that nobody witnesses the abuse. 🥺 Actually, most people see the complete opposite – the charming person, the funny side of them, the helpful side of them, the “empathic” side of them. They might see your partner as the kind of person who’d give you the shirt off their back. 👕 The kind of person everyone loves – while behind closed doors,…
One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
I was listening to a Lewis Howes School of Greatness Podcast today which was a mix of a bunch of different people he has interviewed over the years about the habits of successful people. One snippet was of an interview with Tony Robbins – one of my faves. Tony said: “Your brain wasn’t designed to make you happy. Your brain was designed to make you survive. Happiness is YOUR job, and it’s a decision.” …