Yep – me, a Coach, said it. 🤷🏼♀️ You don’t have to change. You don’t have to leave the relationship, set the boundary, stop people-pleasing, change jobs, go to counselling or work on your self-worth. You don’t have to do any of it; it’s your life. BUT… You can’t keep saying you desperately want your life to be different while refusing to do anything differently. 🤔 At some point, we have to stop bullshitting ourselves. MAYBE YOU’RE JUST…
What’s something you’re actively avoiding doing right now, and how different would your life be if you just got it done?! 🤔 I want you to think of ONE thing you’re avoiding doing right now – might be a hard conversation, setting a boundary, ending a relationship or friendship. Maybe it’s leaving your job, booking the appointment, being honest about your finances or hiring that staff member. Perhaps you’re at that place in your life with a person or…
How often do you make decisions based on what other people might think? 🤔 Have you ever… 👍🏼 Said “yes” when you wanted to say “no” or “fck off”? 🤐 Stayed quiet to keep the peace? 🧐 Changed your opinion because someone disagreed with you? Put everyone else’s needs before your own? If so, you might be abandoning your authentic self because you’re seeking external validation and approval. For most people, this starts in childhood. 👧 If…
After all the trauma you’ve endured and how much you’ve grown from it, you might start telling yourself “I’ve got this,” when you realise you’re one of the most independent people you know. It seems like confidence on the surface because you’re a strong, capable and independent person. 💪🏻 But what can seem like confidence may actually be the result of your nervous system learning that relying on other people wasn’t safe. Your brain has adapted because you were…
How long have you been putting something off because you keep telling yourself… “I’ll do it when I feel more confident.” Confidence doesn’t come first. You grow your confidence by DOING THE THING. 🤗 So many people are waiting for the perfect time, the right qualification, more money, more experience, more energy or more certainty. The problem is… none of those things create confidence. Taking action does. When I started my own business, I wasn’t overflowing with confidence. I…
One of the hardest things about being in a relationship with a covert abuser is the fact that nobody witnesses the abuse. 🥺 Actually, most people see the complete opposite – the charming person, the funny side of them, the helpful side of them, the “empathic” side of them. They might see your partner as the kind of person who’d give you the shirt off their back. 👕 The kind of person everyone loves – while behind closed doors,…