One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
Last week inside Project Self Worth, we talked about masculinity; healthy vs toxic self-proclaimed “alphas”. 🙄 The difference between the chest-beating, podcast-y, “submit to me, woman” fuckwits and the men that feel safe, grounded, solid. 👌🏻 The kind that doesn’t need to dominate to feel like a man. After watching the circus on Louis Theroux’s recent doco The Manosphere, it would be very easy to believe those toxic voices represent men as a whole. They don’t; they’re just louder.…
Last week we kicked off our very first of 12 live group coaching calls for my Project Self Worth members. These calls are always so special for me, and I come away feeling like I’ve had a giant group hug – I honestly feel like I get a big dump of oxytocin and dopamine (feel good hormones) after running these calls. 🥰 The biggest reason for this is the sense of community and connection these calls provide. Each of…
I do a lot of energy treatments every week, seeing anywhere between 1-40 people across 1:1 in person treatments, distant healings and group healings, and you know what the common theme is that I find? A lack of self-love. 💔 After more than two decades working in energy healing, teaching Reiki and coaching clients through trauma-informed transformation, treating thousands of people both in person and remotely, I’ve developed a very clear pattern-recognition muscle. Energy fields don’t lie. 🤷🏼♀️ Long…
“Have you ever considered bankruptcy?” 🧐 My stomach dropped when she suggested that to me. I was having a chat with My Budget, exploring options to get me out of the hole I’d gotten myself into. 🕳️ I was sitting in my newly built house, not being able to afford toilet roll. No landscaping, no blinds, and concrete floors after living there for three years. How did I let this happen? 🥺 I’d spent almost 8 years at…
(It’s the subtle shit that steals your power) Manipulation isn’t always the obvious, movie-villain stuff. 🦹 Sometimes it’s soft, sneaky, and served with a side of “but I’m only saying this because I love you babe.” If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, guilty, or like your brain got fucked over by someone who swears they “did nothing wrong”… I totally know how that feels. 🥺 You’ve probably been manipulated, which is hard to swallow if…