Around 80% of our thoughts are negative. 🙄 Does that number surprise you? In my twenties I did some volunteering as an Appropriate Adult for vulnerable adults being interviewed by the Police. (Side note: a lot of my mates will have a giggle at me having the title “Appropriate Adult”) 😆 As part of that training we learned about mental health and anxiety provoking thoughts that can lead to behaviour change during interviews. As homework we were told to…
There’s a quiet trap many emotionally intelligent, empathetic people fall into – and I’ve been there in most of my past relationships too. You’re not in love with how they’re showing up right now. You’re in love with who you know they could be. 🤔 You see their depth (you think), their wounds, the backstory that created those wounds, the insight they almost have. You can picture the future version of them so clearly it feels irresponsible not to…
Yesterday my amazing fiancé turned 40 🥳 I’d ordered a special yummy personalised cake for him and went to pick it up on Monday. It was a stinking hot day ~ 37 degrees as I drove to get it. 🥵 As the cake maker brought it out, she looked utterly devastated and embarrassed saying due to the heat in her kitchen the cake hadn’t set properly. She said she could fix it but needed…
How often do you say or hear the words “you make me feel…” or “they made me do….”? I hear this time and time again. “He made me so angry”! “She pushed me into it”. “He sent me broke”. “It’s her fault I did it”. My response to this is nobody can “make” you feel or do anything; your response and actions are always a choice. ALWAYS. How you speak, act…