You’ve spent years being the emotional airbag for everyone else… cushioning their crashes, absorbing their outbursts, translating their moods, and tip-toeing through their triggers.
Meanwhile, your own emotional world is crumbling. 🤯
You’ve become so hyper-attuned to their feelings that you’ve been completely ignoring your own.
Maybe you grew up walking on eggshells, reading the room before you could even read words.
Maybe somewhere along the line you decided that peace was maintained by keeping everyone else happy… even if it killed your own spark in the process. 😶🌫️
Here’s the thing though: constantly managing other people’s emotions isn’t compassion, it’s control manifesting as people pleasing.
Because deep down, you’re terrified of what will happen if someone gets upset. 😢
You’ve linked their discomfort to your safety.
So you anticipate, fix, soothe, explain, apologise and manage everyone else’s emotions until you can’t even tell if you’re sad, angry, or just plain knackered. 🥱
Sound familiar?
Let’s call it what it is: emotional burnout disguised as being “the strong one.”
Their emotions are NOT yours to carry.
The real healing begins when you stop asking, “what do they need from me?”
and start asking, “what do I actually feel right now?”
That question might scare you. It might even make you cry – good. That’s your body thawing out after years of emotional freeze-mode.
START SMALL 💫
When something happens, pause before reacting.
Notice the tightness in your chest, the lump in your throat, the ache in your gut. That’s your body giving you signals that something’s up. 🤔
Let yourself feel whatever comes up without fixing it. No tapping, no affirmations, no bypassing – just honest raw feeling for a minute.
The more you do that, the less you’ll need to carry everyone else’s emotional load. 🧳
You’ll start to notice what’s yours and what’s theirs.
And that clarity you start getting as a result is the start of you making your way back to your true authentic self. 🥰
Because your feelings aren’t a problem to solve, they’re an indicator telling you what’s right for you and what’s not.
If you’re sick of the baggage that’s keeping you stuck, drop me a message and let’s chat about how coaching and/or energy work can help.
Catcha on the flip side,
