Often I work with my coaching clients around situations that don’t serve them, and are making them completely miserable.
They’ve usually been in the situation they’re in for a considerable period of time.
The situation they’re in never starts how it ends.
Take the example of an abusive relationship.
It starts with subtle things at first – put downs, comments about what you’re wearing, how they don’t think certain friends or family are good for you.
One day, maybe months or years down the line, you wonder how you ever got here.
I like to use the analogy of a boiling frog in these situations.
If you were to put a frog in boiling water, it will jump straight back out and save its life.
But if you put a frog in cool water and boil it slowly over time, it’ll boil to death.
This is a great analogy for a situation you find yourself in that starts off ok, and gets worse over time.
Over time, your self esteem and confidence gets slowly chipped away to the point where it’s easier to put up with the shitty situation than make an effort to change things.
But something needs to change, and often this means setting boundaries.
We teach people how to treat us – we let them know it’s ok to treat us like shit if we don’t stand up for ourselves at the time.
Are you slowly boiling to death in a situation in your life?
What changes can you start to make now, no matter how small?
It’s ok if you don’t know.
Reach out to someone for help – someone you a trust.
If you don’t have anyone you think you can trust, reach out to me.
Catcha on the flip side, where we no longer boil ourselves to death.