The new year is in full swing and it’s that time of year where most peeps make a bunch of resolutions that they’ll lose motivation for within a month.
Does that sound like you?
There are a few issues that come up when setting goals. Here are my tips on setting goals that you’ll actually stick to.
IS IT ACTUALLY YOUR GOAL?
Sometimes we set a goal that we think is ours, but it’s actually more about a need to please someone else.
Is this goal really yours, or what someone else wants for you?
IS THE PAIN GREAT ENOUGH?
When we set a goal that involves giving something up, like giving up a sleep in to go to the gym or quitting junk food to eat healthily, what can happen is that the pain of staying the same isn’t great enough yet to motivate us to change.
For example, if you’ve noticed a bit too much muffin top over your jeans for your liking, you might be able to ignore it. But if you started having health issues related to your diet and exercise, you might be more motivated to change your lifestyle.
SET SMART GOALS
SMART is a model of goal setting that ensures we set better goals – it stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time bound.
For example, a goal of “losing weight” is way too vague.
How much do you want to lose, and by when? Is it a realistic amount in that period of time?
FOCUS ON GAIN NOT LACK
A lot of people will focus on what they’re giving up instead of the gains of what they’re trying to achieve.
If you want to exercise every day before work, but focus your attention on the fact you’ll lose your hour of snoozing, then you’re focused on lack.
Focus instead on the health benefits you’re after – better sleep, banging body, better skin, healthier, feel better, happier etc – usually way more benefits than what you’re “losing.”
GET A CHEERLEADER
The people we love the most are usually the people we want to share our goals with – but they aren’t always the most supportive and they can feed into our inner critic, leading to I-give-up-itis.
Find at least one person who’ll get excited about your goals with you, be your cheerleader when you’re doing well, and listen without judgement when you feel like packing it all in.
CLEAR THE BAGGAGE IN THE WAY
There’s always subconscious stuff in the way if we are particularly stuck on a goal we’ve tried many times to achieve.
Often there are limiting beliefs that hold us back:
- I can’t do this
- I’m not good enough
- I’m a failure
- It’s too hard
Take your pick. If deep down you believe these things to be true, then you’ll sabotage your own success.
We can also have emotional baggage from the past that’s keeping us stuck.
The good news is that can all be cleared – this is my main focus with my coaching clients and the result is that they achieve the goals they set for themselves.
If you’d like me to be your cheerleader and help you smash goals, including clearing the shit in the way, then get in touch to chat.
I also still have my 2 session coaching special running to help you wrap up your 2018 in the right way and get your 2019 kicked off with a bang.
Can’t wait to help you smash your goals!
Catcha on the flip side,