I used to think healing meant peace. That once I left the chaos behind… the toxic relationships, the drama, the constant overthinking.. I’d finally be free. I thought it would feel calm, light, and effortless. Some days, it absolutely does. 🥰 You wake up and feel like your heart has finally unclenched. You’re grounded. Grateful. You can breathe again. But sometimes, out of nowhere… bam. A song, a smell, a memory… suddenly you’re right back there, feeling it all…
“Relationships take work.” Well yep, that’s true, but there IS a difference between two people working on a healthy relationship and people disguising emotional damage as effort. The latter leads to slowly becoming a shell of yourself. 🐚 All relationships have challenges. Hard conversations, disagreements and growing pains are normal. But if you constantly feel anxious, confused, or like you’re the only one trying to fix things, that’s not “just a rough patch.” That’s a red flag. 🚩 …
REAL healing – clearing your past baggage, challenging the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck, and actually learning to love yourself – will completely change your life. 🤩 Not just on a surface level, but deep in your nervous system, your relationships, your self-worth, and your peace. It’s not pretty. It’s not an instant, overnight fix. It’s a lifetime of work.. but fuck, it’s worth it. CLEARING YOUR PAST BAGGAGE Every single one of us carries emotional baggage –…
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to spot when your mate is self-sabotaging themselves, but how when it’s you doing the same thing, you justify your behaviour? 🤔 You tell yourself you’re just keeping the peace, “letting it go”, “being chill” or compromising, being kind or “holding space”. But are you actually just abandoning yourself by people-pleasing, letting them walk all over you and having shitty boundaries? You abandon yourself every time you: 🌀 Say yes when…
I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…
Some of us even earned the full loyalty card. 🙋♀️ You know the one… the relationship that looks cute on Instagram but feels like slow emotional death in real life. The one where you convince yourself “he’s just misunderstood,” while your gut’s in the corner quietly sobbing into a bottle of wine. 🍷 If you’ve ever wondered how to build your own red flag starter pack, here’s the foolproof 5-step formula I perfected back in my toxic relationship era.…