I heard something recently that stuck with me:
“When you can remember something traumatic without being emotionally hijacked by it, it becomes wisdom.”
That doesn’t mean you forget what happened and suddenly think it was ok, and it defo doesn’t mean you have to be grateful for the shite you’ve experienced.
But it does mean that you can finally remember what happened without feeling like you’re re-living it all over again in your body and mind.
Before healing, you tell the story of what happened and feel the emotions, spiral afterwards, are consumed by anger and resentment when you think of the person involved and you get so triggered it can ruin your entire day, or even week. 😣
But once you’ve truly healed, none of that happens – you can remember the memory without it owning you anymore.
One of my clients, Jill, described this shift beautifully:
“I was always very triggered when I came in to see you… I was living on a lot of anxiety and a lot of reactive behaviours during that time. I used to get consumed by stuff, tunnel into it and get stuck there. Over 18 months of working with you, now when I feel triggered I can let it go, use the tools you taught me and I don’t seem to get stuck anymore.”
– Jill G
THAT is healing. 🙌🏻
It’s not about pretending it didn’t happen, forcing yourself to forgive or just “getting over it”.
It’s about being able to look backwards, without also being dragged backwards.
Eventually, some of the most painful experiences of your life become a blessing – because they teach you how you don’t want to be treated, what you will no longer tolerate, what your boundaries and needs are, what red flags look like, what you deserve and who you’ve become because you chose healing instead of staying stuck. 😮💨
REFLECT ON THIS TODAY
Is there something from your past that used to completely overwhelm you, that you can now look back on without spiralling? 🌀
Your past might be part of your story, but it doesn’t have to keep writing your future.
If you feel stuck in the past and want to heal, drop me a message and let’s chat about how coaching and/or energy work can help.
Or check out the link in my bio for a bunch of freebies and ways to work with me.
Much love,
