I saw the above title in a quote this week, and it really triggered a big reflection for me. A reflection on how many times in the past I’ve done exactly that – let the unacceptable become the acceptable. How in the past I’ve allowed myself to be treated with disrespect due to my own shitty boundaries. How I’ve allowed others to emotionally abuse me – some for years. How I gave my energy and power away on the…
It doesn’t matter who you are, or how successful you are – we all have shit from our past that can keep us stuck. Old, core wound shit that has led to feelings of being unlovable, unworthy, useless, stupid, not good enough. The core wound shit that has attracted people, situations and relationships into our lives that “prove” that we aren’t good enough over and over – until we do the work to heal our wounds. This stuff happens to all of us on some…
After spending most of my life helping others, and often (in the past) to my detriment, I thought I’d share some learnings that I wish someone had shared with me. PEOPLE CAN CHANGE, BUT WE CAN’T CHANGE THEM As a helper type it’s so natural to want to dive in and help people we see in need, especially those closest to us. We do this because we believe everyone has the capacity to change; over time, we…
“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” – Roy T. Bennett We’ve all been treated unfairly at times ~ it’s part of life. Certain situations can lead us to feel angry, upset, mistreated and resentful. It’s perfectly normal to feel that way, but when you allow yourself to wallow in the drama of it all for…
Kurt Vonnegut said “hate, in the long run, is about as nourishing as cyanide.”He’s so right.Are you holding on to repressed anger, bitterness, resentment or hate?Who are you directing that towards?Do you know what those kind of emotions do you your physiology, physical body and mental health when you refuse to let them go?Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. The only person we are really hurting is ourselves. Toxic emotions can create serious…
Are you holding on to anger and resentment from the past? Do you lose your rag at the smallest of things, usually aimed at the person that the anger isn’t even really about? When we collect a bunch of memories about stuff that’s happened to us in the past that led to hurt, betrayal, resentment and anger, this crappy energy gets stuck as trauma in our physical body and our energy field, and if not released in an appropriate way,…