Feeling “safe” isn’t just about locking your doors at night or carrying your keys like Wolverine claws in a dark car park (although, let’s be honest, we’ve all done it). 🔑
Safety goes way deeper than that.
Feeling safe is about your , your emotional needs and that quiet part of you that just wants to breathe a sigh of relief and finally unclench your jaw.
So – what do you need to feel safe? 🧐
For some of us, it’s certainty: knowing the ground isn’t going to drop out from under us, that our bills are paid, and the people we love aren’t about to abandon us.
Certainty is survival – it’s your brain’s way of saying “I’ve got you.”
For others, it’s connection: love, hugs, a dog curled up next to you (cue Squishy 🐾), or friends who actually understand you instead of sucking the life out of you. 🧛♀️
Without connection, we start to believe the bullshit stories that we’re unlovable or not good enough. 😞
Sometimes, safety looks like boundaries. ✋🏼
Saying no without apologising.
Stopping people from walking all over you like a human doormat. 🚶♀️
Feeling safe in your body, your relationships and your choices.
Safety is a very individualised thing.
What makes me feel safe might not be what makes you feel safe. 🤷🏼♀️
For one person, safety is routine, predictability, and knowing exactly what’s for dinner.
For another, safety is freedom – the space to breathe, room to grow, and not being controlled by someone else’s expectations.
So how do you figure it out?
Ask yourself:
Do I feel safe in my body? Or am I constantly running on empty, burnt out, or ignoring the warning signs? ⚠️
Do I feel safe in my relationships? Or am I people-pleasing, hoping someone else will finally see my worth? ❤️🩹
Do I feel safe in myself? Can I trust my own choices, or am I still outsourcing them to everyone else?
When your needs aren’t being met, your body and mind will scream at you – through stress, resentment, exhaustion, or that fun little thing called anxiety.
When your needs are met, you’ll feel grounded, calm, and more like your true self. 🥰
So maybe the better question is: what’s one thing you can give yourself today to feel a bit safer?
Maybe it’s a boundary. Maybe it’s rest.
Maybe it’s EFT tapping on all the “I’m not enough” stories until your nervous system chills the fuck out.
Safety isn’t just about the outside world. It’s an inside job.
And the more you meet your own needs, the less you’ll rely on chaos, control, or shitty coping mechanisms to try and feel ok.
So what do you need to feel safe? And how soon can you give it to yourself?
Ready to stop just surviving and finally feel safe, supported, and strong in your own skin?
That’s exactly what we dive into inside From Surviving to Thriving.
You’ll get the tools to regulate your nervous system, set boundaries without guilt, and finally meet your own damn needs – so you can build a life where you feel secure, worthy and free.
We kicked off the new live round on 20 August, but it’s not too late to join.
👉 Click here to join us, and let’s make “safe” your new normal.
Catcha on the flip side,
