Some of us even earned the full loyalty card. 🙋‍♀️
You know the one… the relationship that looks cute on Instagram but feels like slow emotional death in real life.Â
The one where you convince yourself “he’s just misunderstood,” while your gut’s in the corner quietly sobbing into a bottle of wine. 🍷Â
If you’ve ever wondered how to build your own red flag starter pack, here’s the foolproof 5-step formula I perfected back in my toxic relationship era.
🎓 Step 1: Ignore your gut.
That fluttery feeling in your stomach?
Nope, not butterflies – that’s anxiety in a party dress. đź‘—Â
But instead of listening, you call it chemistry and keep marching straight into chaos.
Your intuition whispers, “this doesn’t feel right”
You reply, “shh, we have potential.”
❤️ Step 2: Call it “potential.”
Because nothing says healthy love like falling for who someone could be if they magically healed all their trauma, stopped lying, and learned emotional regulation overnight.
You’re not dating a person… you’re dating their potential.
I did this with all my exes! 🤦🏼‍♀️Â
🔥 Step 3: Confuse trauma bonding for soulmateship.
You know that intense, addictive pull?
That’s not fate.. it’s trauma-bonding.
It’s the push-pull, hot-cold, love-bomb-then-ghost cycle that keeps you hooked.
You call it “passion.” I call it “nervous system carnage.”
🍷 Step 4: Defend and minimise their behaviour to your mates while crying into wine.
They’re all telling you, “Babe, he’s bad news.”
But you’re deep in denial mode, crafting excuses and minimising how shit you feel.
“He’s just stressed.”
“He didn’t mean it.”
“He had a shitty upbringing.”
“He’s working on himself.”
No he’s not, and you know it.
🌀 Step 5: Repeat until emotionally unhinged and a shell of your former self.
You’ll swear “never again” – until the next walking red flag struts into your life with a tragic backstory and “different this time” vibe.
And that’s okay. Because awareness is step one of healing.
💫 Here’s the good news
If you’re done collecting red flags like you’re making a dress out of them, it’s time to raise your fucking standards babe.
You don’t need another “project.”
You need self-worth so solid that red flags look like stop signs, not invitations. ✋🏼Â
That’s exactly what Project Self Worth is here for – to help you ditch the patterns, heal your nervous system, and finally spot the green flags instead. 🌿
Because love shouldn’t be chaos.
It should feel like peace.
We’ve all had a red-flag starter-pack phase.
The goal now? Graduate from it. 🎓
If you’re ready to ditch chasing red flags, comment READY and I’ll DM you to chat.
Catcha on the flip side,
