Do you ever find yourself pouring your heart out to someone and get met with the emotional equivalent of a blank Google Doc? 🥺

Yeah. That.

Let’s talk about it.

Most people are walking around like IKEA furniture – held together by a few screws and a prayer. 🙏 

No therapy. No shadow work. No journaling. 

Not even a self-help podcast while doing dishes. 

Fuck all.

So when you come in all self-aware and shit, emotionally intelligent, slightly unhinged (but in a healed way) – you expect them to meet you there.

Spoiler alert: they can’t. ⛔️ 

Because here’s the thing…

People can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves.

And most haven’t even knocked on their own front door. 🚪 

You’re expecting someone who’s never cleaned out their emotional baggage to help you hang your feelings on a perfectly aligned, color-coded shelf. 

It’s not happening.

You want depth? They’ve only swam in the kiddie pool of their own psyche. 🏊 

You want presence? They’re buffering like a 2007 YouTube video.

You want connection? They’re still trying to connect to themselves (if they ever do).

Let’s break this down:

* They haven’t done the work. Because it’s hard. And uncomfortable. And means admitting you’re not perfect… which is way too confronting for most people.

* They haven’t looked at their trauma.Because denial is warm and cozy and doesn’t require opening Pandora’s Box. 📦 

* They haven’t learned emotional regulation. Because rage-texting, ghosting, or slamming cabinets has always “worked.”

So what do they do instead?

They deflect. Project. Ghost. Gaslight. Or hit you with that classic line:

“I’m just not ready for something real right now.” 🙄 

Translation: I’ve never been real with myself, so how the fuck am I gunna be real with you?

Here’s your reminder:

It’s not your job to shrink to meet someone in their emotional basement.

You didn’t spend all that time in therapy, journaling, crying, unlearning, breathing through the cringe of your past… just to settle for someone who thinks vulnerability is “too much.”

You’re not asking for too much. You’re asking someone to meet you where you’ve already met yourself.

And if they can’t?

That’s not rejection. That’s redirection. ✨

To someone who has done the work.

Or is doing it.

Or, at the very least, knows they should.

As always, if you want a guide on your journey, drop me a message and let’s chat about how coaching and/or energy work can help. 

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Catcha on the flip side,

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