You’re second guessing your own feelings. 😔
You feel hurt by the way they treat you, and wonder if you’re just overreacting.
You feel uncomfortable with what they’ve said to you, but tell yourself you’re being too sensitive.
You KNOW in your gut that something is off, and has been for ages… but you gaslight yourself and convince yourself otherwise. 💨💡
So you continue to minimise, justify and rationalise their words, their actions, their lack of integrity, the inconsistencies that keep showing up.
You talk yourself out of what you already know, and stop seeing the mates that confirm what you know. 🥺
You stop trusting yourself over time, and become a confused shell of yourself. 🐚
But you’re not really confused. They’ve programmed your brain to be that way over a long period of time.
You’ve spent time in relationships where your emotions were dismissed, minimised, gaslit, deflected or protected back onto you, and so your nervous system has had to adapt to survive.
Your body has learned that listening to your own internal signs leads to conflict, withdrawal, stonewalling, punishment… and so you just start questioning yourself instead of them.❓
When you’ve been trained to override your own intuition, these signals can start to feel unsafe and even wrong – so the “just trust yourself” advice doesn’t work.
Self-trust (or lack of it) isn’t a mindset problem – it’s linked to an unsafe nervous system and programming in your brain that no longer works in line with your best self. 🤯
And this is what I help people with; this is the work I’ve spent years immersed in through both professional experience in domestic abuse and coercive control as well as through my lived experience of breaking entrenched toxic relationship patterns.
I’ve seen (and experienced) again and again that insight alone doesn’t change the behaviour; you also need to understand WHY you doubt yourself.
Once you can start to learn to interpret the signals from your body accurately again, the cycle starts to break. 💔
You learn to trust, respect, and love yourself again over time.
If you want to learn how to tell the difference between intuition, trauma responses, fear and genuine red flags – and stop second-guessing yourself in relationships – I’m teaching this in depth in my free webinar, Break The Cycle.
I’ll take you through the exact framework I used myself and hundreds of others to stop outsourcing your truth and start trusting your own internal guidance again.
There’s nothing wrong with you – you’re responding exactly as someone would when they’ve learned not to trust themselves.
And whatever has been learned, can also be unlearned.
Join the webinar via my link in bio – it’s happening on 14 February.
See you there,
