One of the biggest things I see in the personal development world is people confusing authenticity or intuition with acting on every feeling they have. Just because something feels true doesn’t mean it’s coming from your authentic self. Sometimes it’s coming from your wounds and insecurities. Which is a mahoosive difference. Your authentic self says: “This relationship isn’t meeting my needs, so I really need to have an honest conversation with them.” 🗣️ Your insecurity says: “They didn’t text…
One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
If, in your relationship, you feel like you have to monitor your words, your tone, your behaviour, your mood and basically your entire existence to keep your partner happy, this is a mahoosive red flag – it’s not love. 🚩 You stay because you crave connection with them and your nervous system has become used to being happy enough with the bare minimum breadcrumbs they give you. Because you’ve normalised it so much, it feels familiar and…
Emotional pain gets a bad rap; but at least pain actually moves you. Confusion paralyses you and keeps you stuck. 😳 PAIN HAS A JOB. CONFUSION JUST SITS THERE LIKE A USELESS EX. Pain is clear, loud, uncomfortable. When something hurts enough, you do something about it. You leave, you speak up, you change. Pain forces action. 🏃♀️ But confusion sucks and keeps you in limbo, saying things to yourself like… “Maybe I’m overreacting…” “Maybe it’ll get better…” “Maybe…
That subtle feeling that you get when something isn’t quite right can be easier to dismiss than to spend time reflecting on. 🤔 But learning how to listen to that “off” feeling without panic or self-doubt is a skill. Instead of ignoring it, justifying it, gaslighting yourself or rushing to fix it, try asking yourself some curious questions instead: “Am I responding to what’s actually happening right now, or to who I’m afraid of upsetting?” …
You’re second guessing your own feelings. 😔 You feel hurt by the way they treat you, and wonder if you’re just overreacting. You feel uncomfortable with what they’ve said to you, but tell yourself you’re being too sensitive. You KNOW in your gut that something is off, and has been for ages… but you gaslight yourself and convince yourself otherwise. 💨💡 So you continue to minimise, justify and rationalise their words, their actions, their lack…