There was a time in my younger years that I honestly believed that love would be enough to make a relationship work. #naive

So when the red flags started appearing in my relationships, I ignored them because I honestly believed that love would overcome any issue. 🚩

I was wrong: love isn’t enough. 🥺

Especially when you’re in love with someone who isn’t right for you.

Who can’t communicate and isn’t willing to work on themselves.

Who doesn’t love themselves, so how could they love anyone else? 🤷🏼‍♀️

For years, I clung to this fairytale version of love, thinking if I just loved harder, forgave more, or tolerated a little longer, they’d finally change.

But real love doesn’t require you to abandon yourself. 🫥

It doesn’t ask you to carry both people’s emotional baggage, pay all the bills, or keep rebuilding the castle while they’re off exploring other plots of land.

True love takes two people committed to doing the work on themselves as well as together.

Love without self-awareness, communication and respect is self-destruction. 🤯

It took me decades of heartbreak, self-abandonment, and a shit-ton of inner work to realise that love isn’t the foundation – I AM.

When you love yourself first, you stop mistaking the potential you see in them for partnership.

You stop confusing breadcrumbs for them actually giving a shit about you in the way you deserve.

And you stop calling pain “chemistry.”

After years of working through the relationship blocks that were holding me back, these days I’m building my castle with someone who shows up beside me every fucking day, brick by brick, with a solid foundation of friendship, love and respect. 🏰

We’re both committed to keeping the walls strong, the communication open, and the foundation solid. 💪🏻

Love is beautiful… but it’s not enough if it’s only one person doing the building.

Love also doesn’t heal the demons they refuse to confront. 😈

You can’t rescue someone who’s more comfortable drowning than confronting their shadow shit. 🫥 💩

Are you the only one building your castle in your relationship while your other half is off checking out other plots of land or avoiding what’s keeping them stuck? 🤔

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Catcha on the flip side,