Are you in a relationship (or friendship) where there seems to be a lot of drama that leaves you confused?You might be dating a toxic person.IN AN ARGUMENT THEY LOOK TO INFLICT DAMAGE NOT SOLVE PROBLEMSThey do this because they’re trying to protect themselves from a perceived threat to themselves or to the relationship.If you’re showing signs of being independent – such as going out with your friends without them – they won’t show their vulnerability to you.If they’re feeling…
Recently I was chatting to a coaching client about some of the difficulties she’s facing in her relationship. She mentioned that she and her partner were having to compromise on certain things. compromise ˈkɒmprəmʌɪz/ noun 1. an agreement or settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions. “Eventually they reached a compromise.” 2. the expedient acceptance of standards that are lower than is desirable. “Sexism should be tackled without compromise” The nature of compromising often leads…
In 1994, Dr Masaru Emoto got the idea to freeze water crystals and observe them under the microscope. He was convinced that he would be able to see something like snow crystals in the frozen water. What Dr Emoto found during his studies was truly amazing – he found that the image of the water crystals would differ depending on the type of water. At first they tried tap water, but found they couldn’t get any beautiful crystals…
This week I seem to be talking to a lot of my coaching clients about issues within their relationships. My first port of call when discussing relationship challenges is to look at the 5 love languages. This is an amazing relationship book written by Gary Chapman, where he states that each of us tend to have a preferred way of communicating our love. A blog I wrote in the past discusses the nature of Transactional Analysis in relationships where, in conflict…
Recently I read an article written by the gorgeously inspiring Jess Ainscough, otherwise known as The Wellness Warrior. I love Jess’s blogs and I especially loved this one as it focused on SELF LOVE. Jess talked about every Sunday being a “Self-Centred Sunday” where you basically spend the entire day dedicated to self care and self love. This really resonated for me on a number of levels as this has been a real issue for me up until this year.…