How often do you have positive convos with your partner about your relationship?
A lot of couples nit pick and whinge at each other about what they feel the other person is doing wrong or not doing enough of.
Do you find yourself doing this in your own relationship?
Most people are more than happy to point out what we perceive to be our partners flaws, while getting defensive about our own when they are pointed out in return.
We also tend to only have these kind of convos in the heat of an argument or when we are feeling triggered in some way.
What if there was another way to have these conversations?
A more loving way?
Try this on for size.
Line up a date night with your partner.
Doesn’t have to be anything fancy, could just be a night at home together where you both turn off your phones and focus on each other 100% for the night.
From a space of love, try asking the following questions (feel free to reframe them into wording that suits you):
- What can I do to make you feel more loved/happy?
- What would you like me to do more or?
- What would you like me to less of?
- I love it when you…
- ️ What do you see for our future together and what do we both need to do to make it happen?
- What’s your favourite memory of us? Why?
- What’s something on your bucket list for us to do together?
- What’s the idea of your perfect date/holiday?
- If you could re-write something in our past, what would it be and why?
If you’re years into your relationship it’s important to still make sure you have a date night, weekly if you can.
This isn’t always easy to book in when you have kids, but it’s important to prioritise this as every couple needs some alone time that isn’t just falling in a heap together at the end of a long day.
Start with one date night and really make it a good one.
You’ll then make more of an effort to prioritise it 🙂
If you have any other cool questions to add to the above list I’d love to hear them.
And if you end up doing this with your partner I’d love to hear how it goes!
Catcha on the flip side, where dream relationships exist.