I was listening to a podcast the other day and the interviewee was talking about the best piece of advice he ever received from a mentor.
“You must master your environment before you depart it.”
There are times where this isn’t possible or safe to do so – for example, in a situation of domestic violence.
But the statement got me thinking about how a lot of us will jump from one similar situation to another, never learning the lessons and so repeating the pattern until we get it.
Some examples might be:
- An empath always attracting narcissists
- Going from one relationship to another where you’re cheated on, rejected, abandoned or your needs aren’t met in some way
- Leaving one crappy work environment for another
The interviewee went on to say that unless we learn the lesson, or at least neutralise the situation, then we will just repeat the same pattern in the next situation if we decide to bail early.
If we can neutralise the situation and learn to master it before we leave, we will have learned the lessons and the chances we will attract the same thing are less likely.
Sometimes we do attract similar situations (that aren’t always obvious at the start) – but what tends to happen is we notice the red flags earlier and leave sooner, because we have better boundaries.
Can you think of a pattern you’ve been repeating?
What lessons are you being shown?
How can you neutralise or master the situation before you leave it?
Maybe there’s even a chance you won’t need to leave, if you choose to learn the lesson.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.
Catcha on the flip side,