I was listening to an awesome Lewis Howes podcast recently where the interviewee was describing the reactions of narcissists to certain things. One of the things she said was “never tell a narcissist your good news first”. Tell your cheerleaders first – the people in your life who love and support you unconditionally so you can continue to feel good and celebrate for a while. The reason for this is that they’ll turn any bit…
I saw the above title in a quote this week, and it really triggered a big reflection for me. A reflection on how many times in the past I’ve done exactly that – let the unacceptable become the acceptable. How in the past I’ve allowed myself to be treated with disrespect due to my own shitty boundaries. How I’ve allowed others to emotionally abuse me – some for years. How I gave my energy and power away on the…
Last week I received a message from a friend after I posted my blog “5 signs you’re dating a toxic person.”My friend said this blog came at the perfect time as she was getting ready to leave her toxic partner.Toxic people show traits of narcissism and borderline personality disorder among other things; they have attachment issues from childhood which tends to create a toxic playground and codependency in their adult relationships.We’ve kept in touch the last few days while she…
I was listening to a podcast the other day and the interviewee was talking about the best piece of advice he ever received from a mentor. “You must master your environment before you depart it.” There are times where this isn’t possible or safe to do so – for example, in a situation of domestic violence. But the statement got me thinking about how a lot of us will jump from one similar situation to another, never learning the lessons…