Years ago, I wrote a blog called Happiness Is A Fairy Cake, which was all about how it’s the simple things in life that make me happy. 🧁
That blog was a deep story about a relationship I’d been in at the time that was really unhealthy for me, how I’d gone to the other end of London for a healing and seen this big yellow fairy cake that I bought before the healing with the intention of sharing it with my partner at the time – because that’s the kind of thing I do for my partner, share stuff even if I want it all to myself! 🤤
Then I had this healing and it was a huge one, we went deep into where my life was going at that time (living my life based on pleasing everyone else at the crux of it), and allowing others around me to suck the fcking life out of me when what I really wanted was to live a happier, simpler life and move to Australia. 🇦🇺
After the healing I looked at this fairy cake, this beacon of light, a symbol of all the big juiciness ahead of me… and ate that mo fo on my own, because I fcking deserved it.
I also left that relationship. 👋🏼
Fast forward about 10 or 11 years.
Cam and I had been together for almost a year but I’d kept my walls right up and hadn’t made it official until later in the year, I’m pretty lucky he stuck around to be honest haha…
He flew in from work late on the Tuesday night and the following day was Valentine’s Day. 💝
He presented me with a batch of home-made yellow fairy cakes… he’d gone to the shops late after flying in (and being awake since 4am for work), stayed up baking cakes never having done it before, decorated them by hand and then gave them to me for V Day.
This gave me the biggest warm fuzzies, because the real gift wasn’t the fairy cakes…. although that act of service in itself was so fcking cute. 🥰
It meant that I realised he’d read my blog that I’d written years ago, he’d never mentioned he’d read it, really heard what I had to say in it and then turned it into a meaningful gift. 🎁
And there’s been many moments like this since, because he’s amazing.
My ex forgot my birthday once after nearly eight years together! No fucks were given on V Day that’s for sure.
It’s not even about V Day… it’s about how he shows me love EVERY day. 😍
From feeling unwanted, unseen, unheard, unloved and ignored to feeling respected, loved, admired, desired, seen, heard… all the things you could ever want in a relationship.
I worked hard to get here – I worked hard to heal the patterns that were keeping me in the loop of attracting abusive partners, worked hard to heal my heart and then had to work hard again to open my heart up to allow in the kind of love that Hot Fiancé gives me. 💫
For any woman reading this who’s feeling the pain of V Day looming while being in a shit relationship or being single with a string of shitty relationships behind you, I’ve got something coming up just for you.
💻 I’ll be live online at 11am, Perth WA (AWST) time on V Day – Saturday 14 February.
There will be a replay sent out if you can’t make it live, but you have to register if you want this sent out to you.
I see you, I feel you, I know you – because I’ve BEEN YOU.
It can get better; let me show you how.
Register here to join me live:
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See you there!
