That subtle feeling that you get when something isn’t quite right can be easier to dismiss than to spend time reflecting on. 🤔
But learning how to listen to that “off” feeling without panic or self-doubt is a skill.
Instead of ignoring it, justifying it, gaslighting yourself or rushing to fix it, try asking yourself some curious questions instead:
“Am I responding to what’s actually happening right now, or to who I’m afraid of upsetting?”
This helps you separate the present moment from old ingrained patterns of people-pleasing or self-abandonment.
“If I removed guilt, fear and hope from the equation, how would this feel in my body?”
Your body usually tells you the truth long before your mind is ready to accept it. 🥺
“Have I felt this feeling before and ignored it? What happened when I did?”
This isn’t about judging yourself, it’s about recognising your patterns.
“Am I trying to understand them, or am I self-abandoning myself to keep the peace?”
Compassion for others shouldn’t come at the cost of losing yourself for them. 😶🌫️
“Do I feel calmer and more like my best self in this situation – or more anxious, less significant and on edge?”
This is showing you how your nervous system is responding.
“If someone I loved was in this situation, what would I quietly hope they’d do?”
Often the advice you’d give someone else is the truth you’re struggling to give yourself. 🥹
“Am I genuinely confused, or avoiding a truth I don’t want to acknowledge?”
This question helps you be more honest with yourself.
And my all time fave question:
“If I 100% loved, honoured, trusted and respected myself, how would my life be different? What would/wouldn’t I be tolerating?”
We can BS our way around answers to questions others ask us… but this one is a powerful question that you almost don’t even need to answer because you KNOW the answer deep in your bones.
You don’t need to act on these questions or the answers that come up immediately.
But asking them gently, without judgement, can reconnect you to your own internal guidance.
If you want support to understand what’s coming up for you right now and how to respond without fear, guilt or pressure, we’ll explore the practical next steps in my upcoming free webinar.
Join via the link in my bio and come exactly as you are.
Much love to you,
