I’m reading a book called The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel at the moment and love his quote: “The most important part of every plan is planning on your plan not going to plan.” This quote got me thinking about a client I once had while working as a Probation Officer in London. 🧐 Picture this: a guy with a violent past, anger issues, and anxiety so intense that he needed to plan his day down to the…
I don’t watch MAFS generally but one of my friends was very insistent this week that I watch what’s unfolding with dickhead (whoops, I mean Adrian) and Awhina, so I set myself up a 9 now account and got stuck into some clips. 🤔 My friend started out as a client quite a while ago now and back then knew nothing about coercive control and domestic abuse. After quite a few sessions together, I’m proud to say she’s regularly…
Last week I got the following email via the contact form on my website: “All this advice, advice, advice! Why doesn’t anyone EVER acknowledge the limitations put upon us by those who control the narrative? Those who make the laws and decide our options? It’s near to impossible to create the life you want when society decides it for you and expects you to toe the line? I’m all for making my dreams come true… if only “they” would…
How much of your day do you spend stressing about things you have little to zero control over? How much is that actually helping you in a positive way? Ask yourself: does stressing + worrying about anything actually help me through it? Or does it just run your body + mind down? rumina Can you find ways to surrender to the process instead? Try out some of these things to calm your nervous system if…
I was listening to a podcast about domestic abuse yesterday. The woman being interviewed works in the field with survivors + training professionals. She was sharing her experience of her own abusive relationship + the shame she felt being in one while also working in the field, as well as how it changed her work. It brought up so many parallels for me that I wanted to share. I never share this stuff from…
1. Avoid blaming someone or something else for your negative feelings. Nothing and nobody has the power to control how you think and feel unless you let it. 2. Don’t blame yourself for not being in control. You’re doing the best you can. 3. Be aware of when you’re playing the victim role. Learn the clues that tell you when you’re not being responsible for what you’re being/doing/having/feeling. 4. Get to know your biggest energy –…